Education of the child - business difficult. But sometimes ourselves are the reason of whims of the child. We often look at behavior of the kid from height of the age, experience, physiological development, eventually. Here 10 most widespread mistakes of parents which we make, even without thinking of their importance. Answer yourself these questions before having a ball, abusing the child.
Instruction
1. Whether there correspond our requirements to age of the child? The small child has no such concept as patience. Their will develops only since 9-10 years. Therefore it is senseless to demand from the preschool child of Spartan endurance, your requests are most often initially doomed to a failure.
2. Whether we understand the reasons of a certain behavior of the child? Whether we accept in attention of his requirement and interests? The view of a problem from a position of the child will surely bring if not to desirable result then to a compromise of the parties.
3. Whether always we look at a physical condition of the child? Perhaps he is hungry, tired or concerned about something. What ridiculous children's fears would not seem to us, it is necessary to treat them seriously and to try to resolve them right at the beginning.
4. Whether we the requirements suppress natural mechanisms of development of children? Try to look at desire of the child to be anywhere and everywhere at the same time, not as your punishment and as a happy opportunity to learn this world to your child.
5. Whether it seems to us sometimes that the child does everything specially to spite of us? It far not so. Just human memory except different useful and not really information, keeps also old offenses. Often they emerge also in our relations with the child. Forget them, you already the adult, and it is not always useful to hit back to the offender, especially when business concerns your own child.
6. Whether we contradict physiological features of the child? If you do not want to eat, unless it is possible to induce you to do it some words?
7. Whether we shift the misses to the child? Your laziness, forgetfulness or carelessness can fault? Answer yourself honestly this question.
8. Whether ourselves are able to concede, agree with people, to make a compromise? What can ourselves teach the child in the sphere of the human relations to? What do we do in order that the child listened to us?
9. Whether we overestimate a possibility of the child in his ideas of danger? Whether it is possible to predict a situation at its age and to see all possible consequences?
10. Whether we take identity of the child into consideration? Whether we forget about its features, interests and desires?