Parents are capable to get lost among various grants on education of children. If really to go deep into this subject, it is possible to meet contradictory advice which authoritative teachers and psychologists give. You remember the main thing: parents always know better what suits their child. Be guided by the basic rules of education, and you will see that your relations with the son or the daughter will become more positive.
Instruction
1. The first golden rule of education: give to children attention every day. And it has to be high-quality communication, but not satisfaction of the basic physiological needs of the child. Parents should be present completely at the moment of communication with the child, to postpone all the affairs, to show genuine interest. Psychologists recommend to pay daily attention to the child within 20-30 minutes. If now you and your children have no good contact, perhaps, time of joint pastime at the beginning will need to be increased.
2. Except attention, the child needs to realize himself the personality. If parents neglect his opinion if they order it and communicate indulgently, it negatively affects both behavior, and a self-assessment. The child - the certain person with own inner world. Let until he created the outlook and only begins to learn the world, for certain there is already something what he succeeded in. Surely note achievements of your kid, give compliments to his abilities, consult on him on family questions which he is already able to understand. It is important to offer the kid an alternative in simple things: choice of clothes, food, game, occupation. When the child absolutely small, limit the choice to 2 options which you consider reasonable.
3. Be an example for the children. The authority of parents is very important for the child. Observe the sequence in the actions, keep promises and do not break the ban which impose for all family members. If the child cannot pass to the apartment, without having taken off footwear, then and you be so kind as to follow this rule, even when you hurry and at the last minute remember the forgotten thing. If you impart to the kid good manners, show them on the example. Also that moment as adults is important communicate among themselves. Be polite and correct.
4. Never discuss the child with strangers at his presence. It is impossible to abuse the kid before the tutor, on the street, in other public places. You should not be told indignantly dad who came from work that today the son or the daughter did him. Understand, it humiliates your child. If he wants, then will tell.
5. Do not compare the child to others. When you cite as an example other kid who behaves better, eats, talks, dances, studies, your son or the daughter consider themselves by pettiness. Even when comparison in favor of your child, it is all the same bears negative consequences. The kid since childhood is guided by competitions to others, begins to suffer in case of loss and lives in constant tension. Only to whom it is possible to compare the child, it he. You want to praise him - tell that it does something better, than earlier.