At early age children are not capable to communicate with the world by means of the speech. Therefore kids seek to inform of the requirements people around in other ways. Crying and gestures become their main means of communication. For the aid to parents the experts in children's psychology allocated several characteristic signals by means of which the child usually expresses the intentions.
"Takes away" hair near an ear
Frequent change of the periods of a dream and wakefulness is characteristic of early infantile age. At the time of accumulation of fatigue it is important to help the child to calm down and fall asleep, otherwise he can overtire, become whimsical and whining. Perhaps, the situation when the kid is helped a motion sickness, by neither mother's embraces, nor a familiar lullaby is familiar to some parents. Experts consider that such behavior testifies to the passed "window in a dream" when process of falling asleep takes place most softly and naturally. How in time to seize this moment and what to pay attention to?
Readiness is confirmed for sleeping by a number of nonverbal signs in behavior. The baby can run a hand near an ear as though he takes away invisible hair. Its stone look for a long time lingers on some subject, and favourite toys do not attract usual interest. The child can ask on hands, but at the same time does not wish to make contact with the adult. All these nonverbal gestures speak about readiness of the kid for sleeping. To avoid overfatigue, it is possible to start safely familiar rituals – disguise, bathing, feeding, rocking.
Tries to catch the adult's eye
During wakefulness the baby actively studies the world. However, not all the time, while he does not sleep, the child wants to communicate with adults, to participate in the developing games or to study toys. Readiness for cognitive activity can be determined by a number of signals. For example, the child tries to catch the adult's eye, actively moves legs and hands, itself reaches for toys. At this moment it is completely ready to interaction and development something new.
If the kid throws out toys, avoids visual contact, coils and curved, it is time for it to switch to quiet wakefulness – to be alone or just to lie down near mom.
Crosses hands before himself
Interesting conclusions on ways of infantile communication were drawn by Vivienne Sabel – the British psychotherapist and the author of the book "the Method Blossom: A revolutionary way of communication with the child since the birth". It was brought up by deaf-and-dumb mother therefore doctor Sabel in perfection knows a sign language and since early childhood comprehended subtleties of nonverbal communication. Further on the basis of unique experience the expert created own method of communication with children of early age. She carried out an inspection of the theory on the daughter Blossom therefore she called scientific work in her honor later. As the author claims, adhering to her councils, everyone will be able to understand needs of the child from the first days of life.
The problem of parents is that they tend to estimate incorrectly gestures of children, comparing their behavior to adults. For example, when the kid begins to sit, creep and go his sign language is enriched, but often read out by people around mistakenly.
If the child crosses hands at the sight of a new toy, then this gesture, most often, is regarded as in it to play unwillingness. Adults in such a way are usually closed from the outside world. But at kids the similar behavior is expression of uncertainty. Though they are also curious, at the sight of a new toy can feel indecision, fear of study something unfamiliar. Parents should not hurry the child or at once to hide a toy. In most cases he will take courage and will start its research.
Holds fingers in a mouth
Usually small children suck fingers when are hungry or feel discomfort because of a teething. If the child is not disturbed by any of these reasons, he sends to parents a signal of the increased uneasiness, fatigue. Perhaps, it lacks attention, caress or there is nervousness after long viewing cartoons.
That softly and without serious consequences to disaccustom the kid to an addiction, it is important to find the reason of his concern and to eliminate it.
Pushes away parents and runs away
The first years of life for the kid parents are the center of the Universe. Not without reason many mothers complain that, having hardly learned to go, children literally follow them close, without wishing to remain for a minute alone. The situation when the child suddenly begins to run away and push away him is more surprising by that for the adult. Such behavior is usually regarded as manifestation of offense, rage, discontent.
Doctor Vivienne Sabel sees in it, rather new stage of personal development. The child as if says: "I want to do!" It forms trust to itself and the world around, and, so there comes the time of independent researches.
Extends hands up and bows on one side
Usually similar gestures from the child are followed by expression of offense and discontent on a face. Parents think that he is upset with something and does not want to make contact. Actually open palms speak about manifestation of trust, and the inclined head expresses friendliness. In such a way the kid tries to tell: "If you do not become angry about me, then let's be reconciled!"
Hides at the sight of strangers
In the first years of life children infrequently contact to strangers. When it occurs, they, sometimes, try to hide, running away from the room, turning away or even pulling clothes on the head. But you should not think that such behavior – manifestation of hostility. The child tries to tell: "Stop to look at me, I am absent!"
Actually it needs time to cope with alarm at the sight of the stranger, and close attention in it disturbs it. As soon as the kid is left alone, he will feel in safety, and the natural curiosity will push him sooner or later to leave the shelter.