All parents want to see the children taken place and happy. The universal formula of education of successful people does not exist. But observance of some rules will help to approach a goal.
Many parents, wishing to grow up the children successful, demand from them very much, constantly straighten out, watch estimates in the diary. But success cannot be predicted. That at the child in the future everything developed well, it is necessary to create the healthy atmosphere in family, to motivate him on new achievements with the example. Also it is necessary to teach him to some useful things.
Attention to children
All-round development of the child is impossible without daily parental participation. Modern adults devote to work, personal records much time, sometimes forgetting about the most important. To grow up successful children, it is necessary to try to spend time with them most effectively. The erudition, love for reading can be cultivated only on a personal example. It is regularly worth allocating time for joint reading of fiction. Later it is possible to arrange small discussion. Even very busy parents are capable to allocate several hours a week for communication with family. It can be walk in the park, a campaign to the forest, in movie theater. It is very important to children to communicate with adults fully. You should not save on joint pastime. It is better to refuse purchase of expensive toy.
Quiet perception of children's failures
One of current trends of education of children is their isolation from possible troubles and difficulties. Such adults undertake all cares in weather behind the ideal world for the child. They very strongly worry when something goes not according to the plan. At such approach it will not turn out to grow up the successful personality. The child has to be able to take the responsibility, to make decisions. It is important to explain to him that failures happen. Also you should not take them too seriously. All difficulties temporary, and they only give the chance to improve themselves, to look at something on the other hand. If demand from the child too much, endure each failure as the tragedy, in the future he can have problems. Such people do not like to test in new affairs as to be afraid to be mistaken. It can become a serious obstacle on the way to success.
Familiarizing with housework
The before the child attach to housework, the adaptation to various changes in life will be easier to happen at him. It is not about the hard exhausting work, it is Enough to awaken awareness of responsibility for creation of a cosiness and a comfortable situation of the house. It is possible to begin with small: from cleaning of toys, arrangement of books on regiments. In family duties have to be accurately distributed. It learns to appreciate others work. Children have an understanding that to success it is possible to come only through joint efforts.
Correct motivation
Children need to explain for what they need to study or be engaged well in something in addition. It is necessary to motivate on success also with the example. If the child sees before himself happy and successful parents, he will want to follow an example of them. It is possible to argue on achievement of heights in career, lying on a sofa and doing nothing. But such words will not be convincing.
Psychologists recommend to choose tactics of requests, but not arrangements. Gradually some duties will become a habit. It is worth to remember to praise the child for the performed work. He has to see that certain actions cause a positive response in adults. A big mistake is introduction of material encouragement. It forms mercantile interest. In adulthood it will be difficult to such children to show an initiative.
Observance of borders and promotion of independence
Often adults so strongly are fond of a role of parents that they cease to live life, and live only the interests of the child. Personal borders are erased. It cannot be allowed. For education of the successful person it is impossible to keep all spheres of his life under control. The healthy permissiveness allows to learn the world quicker. It is necessary to encourage inquisitiveness of the child, to direct him and to prompt, but not to keep in ""echinoid mittens"". Children need to grant option since small years. It is necessary to encourage their hobbies, not to forbid to test in different fields of activity. Only this way the little person will be able to find himself.
Unconditional love
The children surrounded with the loving parents try to obtain success much more often. It is necessary to love the child it what he is, with all merits and demerits. It forms at him feeling of own importance. Growing, such children more with firmness perceive failures. They are sure of themselves and are not afraid to go forward, to try something new. The atmosphere in family is not less important for education of the successful person. If the relations at parents do not develop, the child feels it. He is in a constant stress. Such situation cannot be allowed.
Support and support
Children who always felt support of parents grow up more successful, socially adapted. It is not about solving everything for the son or the daughter, and about readiness to give a helping hand when it is necessary. If the child is upset, worries, it is impossible to depreciate these emotions. The anger, tears, irritability are response to different situations. It is not necessary to quash feelings. It is worth teaching the little person to stabilize them. In a quiet state it is possible to find a way out of any situation. Understanding and understanding of the emotions help to struggle with fears. Children with the developed emotional intelligence understand people around better, clash less. They are more resistant to a stress that in many spheres of life is the key to success.