In life of each child there have to be restrictions. It ensures safety, allows it to grow the worthy person. But some bans strongly narrow a scope for development of children, do them diffident.
The correct education of the child is not a set of strict restrictions. Adults can and have to establish the rules, but it is necessary to know when to stop. Some bans badly affect children's mentality and impart diffidence. There are things, which you should not forbid the child not to do much harm to him and also not to destroy the relation with it.
To cry
Children much more emotionally than adults. They transfer many vital moments more brightly. Even some trifle is capable to force them to begin to sob. To forbid them it is impossible to cry. Especially it is impossible to shame for it. It is better to help to understand a situation, to explain to the child why he cries as it is possible to correct it. It will only strengthen the relations and will help to overcome age crises
To ask questions
Small children grow, learn the world. It is quite natural what at them appears many questions which they endlessly ask adults. What strong would not be fatigue after day of work, you should not refuse to the child communication. It is impossible to forbid it to ask questions, to banish. It not only prevents it to develop, but also deprives of an opportunity to establish between it and the adult close connection. In such time the attachment is formed.
To be afraid
Small children often are afraid of pricks, doctors, unfamiliar relatives or just some suspicious people. It is quite natural to them. It is not necessary to shame for fear in such cases. Especially it is impossible to deride the little person, to speak ""do not dare to be afraid" ", " "you are future man"". It is better to explain why it it is not terrible, simple to embrace, take by hand and to let know that the adult is near. Gradually the majority of such fears will leave, the child will learn to cope with emotions.
To have secrets
In process of growing children have more and more secrets from adults. Of course, parents have to control the child's life, but forbid it to have personal space it is impossible. These restrictions are useless and silly. Secrets will not get to anywhere, just will begin to mask them more carefully. In this situation there is nothing more valuably than trust of the child. You should not undermine it, reading the personal diary or eavesdropping on phone calls.
To be greedy
The little person has the right to dispose of the personal belongings. If on the street someone approaches it and asks a bucket, the bicycle, the scooter, it can refuse if does not want to share. You should not reproach him with it and to speak ""what you greedy"". Especially it is not necessary to do it publicly. Psychologists assure that such behavior at children is norm. Little people learn to defend the borders. If it is good to think, adults do the same. If someone from passersby approaches and will ask a bag or an umbrella, the request will cause bewilderment and will be hardly executed.
To be mistaken
Even adults can make some mistakes. Children only learn to put on, clean up, help parents correctly. Even if something goes not so, it is not necessary to abuse the child, to place emphasis on it. It is capable to kill an initiative. If to scold the son or the daughter for incorrectly buttoned jacket or the boot which is put on that leg next time the child will not want to try. Fear to be mistaken can sit down at subconsciousness so deeply that the help of the psychologist will be required.
To rustle
Many children very noisy. You should not constantly forbid them to sing songs, to loudly talk, make enthusiastic sounds. This happy time will not repeat any more. The remark can be made only if the child disturbs the public peace or noise is not appropriate. If already late, and children cheered up, it is necessary to stop them, but at the same time to suggest to continue the games tomorrow, and better on the street.
To speak ""no""
The child is not the property of adults, and the full member of family. If something is not pleasant to him, he can and has to speak ""no"". To forbid it to contradict parents or the senior family members, to teachers, for tutors it is impossible. At the same time adults need to learn to agree with the child, to explain why he does not allow something what on it there are reasons. If to discuss a situation quietly, the way out will always be found.
To be angry
Children have full authority to experience any emotions. Often they are angry, and parents forbid to express aggression in public. It is not correct. The will power at children is not up to the end created. It is difficult to them to hide the feelings, to suppress them. If any emotion seems to adults bad, it does not mean that the child has to cease to show it. It is necessary just to teach him to do it within the existing standards of behavior.