Aggression is a type of self-defense which is an instinct for survival in this world. Initially aggression is inherent in each person, but in the course of growth, education, the person learns to transform aggression to the most acceptable ways of behavior in society. Not to experience difficulty in communication, it is necessary for the person will learn to control the aggression. Not to suppress! And to control. The person has
Aggression is a type of self-defense which is an instinct for survival in this world. Initially aggression is inherent in each person, but in the course of growth, education, the person learns to transform aggression to the most acceptable ways of behavior in society. Not to experience difficulty in communication, it is necessary for the person will learn to control the aggression. Not to suppress! And to control. The person has the right to defend and protect the interests in any socially acceptable way at the same time without violating the rights and the interests of other people and without doing anybody harm. In it the task of parents - to teach the kid to control the aggression and to use those methods which are admissible in civilized society for reaction also consists. What reasons of aggression of children? 1. fear of the world surrounding it, the child does not trust and worries about the safety;
2. the child faces the frequent bans, dissatisfaction of his requirements, desirable and possible do not coincide; 3. restriction of freedom of the child; by means of aggression the child ego-trips, tries to find independence, independence, asserts the rights and the territory;
4. the child does not feel love and support from close people; 5. trouble in family. The child makes a protest aggression. Aggression at the child – sign of internal emotional pressure, a clot of negative experiences, one of inadequate ways of psychological protection. Aggression for the child - the only way to get rid of psycho-emotional trouble, internal uneasiness. What can parents make to prevent aggression of the child? Show the love for the kid. Practically all parents love the children unconditional love, but not everything, owing to the character, education or personal beliefs, show it to the child. As often as possible you say to the kid that you love him. Its aggression which is shown from time to time is a cry from the heart about the shortage of your love for it. If you are not happy with any act of the child, explain to him that you are dissatisfied with an act (and what and why), but not the child. Secondly, children study social behavior, watching you. If you want your kid to learn to control the behavior, then you have to be able to behave adequately in any situation. Remember, you are watched always by your child and everything copies! Suppression of aggression is very unhealthy the person. Therefore child it is necessary to learn not to quash the feelings which arose in an aggression attack, and to transform. In what? It is possible in words (you angered me, I am offended, angry, upset, etc.), it is possible in actions. But actions should not do harm to either people around, or the child. Aggression is a huge force and energy. It is possible to direct this energy to quite peace purposes. Adults can advise to direct this energy to work or household chores, and to the child? Well, the first is a sport. The second - active games. The third - a pillow. The pillow can be beaten, kicked with legs, to generally give vent to the broken-out aggression. The fourth - art therapy. The child can draw the one who caused in him anger and to tear this drawing. To prevent and further to nullify aggression attacks at the child, parents need to pay enough attention to the kid. Learn to respect the personality in the child, to reckon with his opinion, to take seriously its feelings. Allow the child to be responsible for the acts and provide him sufficient freedom. Provide the child with the territory in which he will be an owner. And some aspect of life on which you cannot encroach without the consent of the kid.