Roughness and even open aggression of children in relation to people around, alas, are frequent. To cope with a problem, it is important to understand the reasons of its emergence. Besides, it is necessary to learn to behave at communication with the aggressive child not to answer it with stronger rage.
If the kid bites, beats you or other children, breaks toys, it does not mean at all that your child difficult. Perhaps, behaving aggressively in relation to people around, the kid tries to draw your attention, to learn borders of the fact that it is allowed to it or to feel own importance. Or it is crisis of age and determination of the new status. Anyway the child has to be sure of parental love and know that mom with dad will always understand him and will help.
Some children go to other room, on kitchen, to the bathroom and are closed there, trying to cope with rage and offense independently. Such situations when parents want to talk to the kid are especially difficult, to stop him, and the angry, aggressive child does not obey. What should I do? The answer is simple - to leave the child alone at least for half an hour-hour. When the kid calms down, you will be able quietly to talk to him.
If the child bites, rushes on you with fists, squeeze him in strong embraces and take out from the room. It is a good way to distract attention and to show that you will not allow to offend yourself. Quietly explain to the kid that you understand his rage and irritation, but you do not allow to rush on you or to attack other people.
To abuse and shame the child at this moment it is useless as it is of you the same aggression, only passive. Besides, it is unlikely the child you at this moment will listen to notations and it is correct to perceive them. Quiet tone tell the kid that you too sometimes are angry, especially when something is impossible to you. The child has to know that you condemn his act, but not him.
Teach the son or the daughter to cope with feeling of rage and irritation. Explain that it is possible to take the sheet of paper and to tear it, to beat fists a pillow or to bite a pencil. It is important that the kid did not transfer aggression to people, animal, to all living beings.
Sometimes parents allow the aggressive child to do everything that he wants if only he calmed down. Acting this way, they show to the kid that attack, shouts, hysterics it is possible to achieve much. At the same time also the authority of parents in whom the child sees a support and a security guarantee suffers. Several years of such education, will also ask already late what to do if the child does not obey mom and dad and respects only brute force. For this reason if you cannot cope with children's aggression, you should address the expert for consultation.