You should become a mother again soon: it and is joyful, and is at the same time disturbing. It is a high time to think of that between your children in the future there were good relations that the senior child did not feel forgotten and was not jealous of younger.
Some steps for elimination of future conflicts it is possible and it is necessary to undertake in advance: so, if any changes in life of the senior child are assumed, make them as soon as possible. For example, if it is planned to move the senior to other room or to give to a garden, make it long before in the house the baby appears: in this case the senior child will not connect data of change with the kid.
Unfortunately, absolutely to do without jealousy it will not turn out: after all mom who was engaged only in the first child earlier gives a considerable share of the attention to the newborn now. Sometimes parents make a big mistake, strictly forbidding the kid any manifestations of discontent. From it the child will not begin to love the younger brother, will just hide the rage on him. And let does not touch you that starshenkiya gently cares for the kid, asks to take him on handles, to shake a bed, etc.: it is one of forms of manifestation of the same jealousy.
Sometimes the senior child suddenly begins to behave as the baby: "to lisp", ask that he was fed from a spoon, dressed, put to bed. All this is the requirement of attention to itself. Just the kid wants him to be loved still.
You need many forces and patience that will cope with these problems. Business is complicated also by the fact that with the second child it is much easier for mom: already there was an experience, already not so everything is terrible and difficult as for the first time. Therefore sometimes the senior child with whom everything was very difficult and very difficult begins to be perceived by mother as a burden, especially when his emergence was unplanned.
To unload a little mom, it is possible to try to switch emotionally the senior child to the father, it is only better to do it beforehand: let now dad will read the fairy tale for the night, reduces in a zoo, will help to solve a problem. It is so possible to fix some problems: dad will be engaged with starshenky, and mom will entirely go into the disposal of small.
If between children quite big age difference, parents sometimes ask the senior to work with the kid. Reasonably it is very good: so your children will easier find a common language, will make friends among themselves. But absolutely inadmissibly completely to shift care of the baby to children's shoulders moreover and at the same time to abuse the child if he something overlooked. You remember: you, and only you entirely are responsible for the children.