Not always children grow obedient, honest, responsible. Also parents are very often guilty of it. They do not give to the child the necessary amount of heat and care. And he in reply revolts, lies, is rude.
Instruction
1. Small children love the parents whatever they were. Judgment of surrounding comes later - at the age of six - seven years. Up to this point the child continues to respect and appreciate even the emotionally coldest, stale parents only that they are with him nearby so much how many he remembers himself.
2. At the age of six - seven years when the need for social communication increases, the child begins to learn that there are other families in which children are loved really. He communicates with friends and schoolmates who tell it about what parents kind and good as they love and appreciate the children. The child begins to compare behavior of relatives of friends to own mom and dad. And comparison often appears not in favor of the family. Then the child tries to find out why so occurred.
3. When the child tries to find out from adults why they treat him so coldly or strictly, he cannot precisely formulate questions therefore sets directing. For example, "why you gave birth to me", "what you would do if I was not", etc. Such and similar questions have to guard the loving parents. Because, proceeding from answers, the child builds the further attitude towards parents.
4. After reconsideration of a situation when the unconscious love passes or does not pass into realized, at the child other communication with parents begins. If the kid made sure that he is loved and appreciate, he like trust to relatives, devotes them in all the problems, asks about the help. If the child understood that parents treat him not too warmly, carrying out the duties only because it is more it to make there is nobody, but not for the love of own fumes, he becomes isolated. The kid does not show to mom and dad any more that they are his darlings, begins to behave is closed, or, on the contrary, to be rude. All this becomes to cause in relatives though some emotions which can let know that the child is not absolutely indifferent for them.