Sometimes mom resolves something, and dad forbids the same or the child is not allowed to do what was permitted earlier. There can be an option when for cleaning of the room the child already big, and for independent walks - small. How do double standards in education influence children?
Instruction
1. The child grows up the manipulator, especially, if the rift in relations, requirements and approaches in education occurs not at parents, and between generations. Then there is no need to listen to mom and dad, it is possible to wait the grandmother (absolutely successfully if she lives in the same house or nearby) and she will resolve everything.
2. The senior generation does not understand that the authority of young parents unconsciously undermines. Therefore, the younger generation should be more persistent with the parents and grandmothers as they indulge your child, and to bring up and correct pedagogical errors to you.
3. However, with such all the allowing relatives, lovely and obedient the child remains very not for long. The kid will begin to experiment, look for borders of legal. Therefore your child will begin to go into hysterics and demand even more with grandmothers from them impossible soon.
4. The lack of a firm hand frightens the child, does it unorganized. Therefore when grandmothers see that the kid began to go into hysterics constantly, they give to egoroditel and accuse those that they spoiled the child.
5. Therefore, it is strongly recommended to adhere to one tactics of education and requirements to the child, to consult among themselves in the choice of punishment or encouragement for any given act that the child realized that if dad forbade, mom will get up on his party and will demand the desirable it is useless.
6. Also it is impossible to frighten the baby by ""third parties"" - the nurse with a prick, the bad uncle, ""babayka"". It turns out, you do not protect the child from them in case of need? And the second is manipulation too, but already of you, that is, so you teach the kid to similar behavior. Education of children - very difficult process, it is impossible to pass it without mistakes, however, it is possible to reduce their number as much as possible.