Sometimes it is necessary parents very hardly. Children do not want to obey, do not react to requests and remarks. Usually not children, but parents are guilty of such situation. Therefore to adjust mutual understanding with the child and it is correct to bring up it, it is necessary to follow several rules.
Be consecutive in education of the child
Develop in yourself those qualities which you want to impart to the children. The behavior of the child to change only when he sees that his parents teach it to with what are allocated .
Avoid application of shouts and punishments
The child cannot be taught the correct behavior using shouts and punishments. Children take everything literally and, thus, they will come to a conclusion, as they can beat others, to shout at them.
Requirements have to be not the general, and concrete
It is useless to demand from the child what he owing to age will not understand. For example, instead of "be accurater", to tell something concrete, corresponding to a situation, we will tell "wash", "fill a shirt". The child will understand better, and you will save yourself from loss of time and nerves.
It is necessary to estimate not the child, and his behavior
The praise, as well as condemnation, has to be addressed only to actions of the child. That is, instead of telling: "You are a sloven", better to say so: "I will be glad if you tidy up toys". This principle has to be observed by all family members as at constant assessment of the child, especially in a negative way, the only thing that can achieve, this formation of negative self-perception and decrease in a self-assessment.
It is necessary to praise so much how many it is necessary in order that good acts became a habit the Praise lets the child know that he makes the correct acts that you wait from it for such behavior. She induces the kid to behave further well.
To seek to avoid the conflicts
It is necessary to use various receptions to minimize the conflicts. For example, by means of the timer it is possible to get rid of whims before going to bed or during the classes, uninteresting for it (toothbrushing, household chores).
To be near always
For children it is necessary to look attentively in time to correct important points of education. It, of course, does not mean that you have to not to depart on a step from the child. Just be nearby.
It is not necessary to remind the child of last mistakes
Never come back to discussion of last failures, whims and mistakes. The constant mention will cause in the child only a protest and offense. Remembering last mistakes, you remind the child of what does not need to be done. Help the child to change to the best, explaining how to do right thing.