Slaps, slaps certainly are forbidden in communication with children. About it thousands of articles are written and speak continually. But there are many other ways to hurt the child and without physical impact.
Do not humiliate
Never humiliate the child. Especially at other people. It seems to us that we at such moment look the good parents worrying about the future of our children. But if with what your children will grow up, forever stop humiliating them is really important for you. "In whom you are such krivorukiya? I did not see such stupid persons yet. To whom are you necessary such freak?" - that internal pain and shame which is endured by children at this moment zapechatlitsya for the rest of life in their mentality. From the closest people in the world children wait for support and the help. Humiliating children, we let them know that we not only refuse to support them, but also we are threat.
Do not betray
When, for example, the father leaves family, and at the same time his stepsons become more important than own children: for them he is ready to make everything, and and does not want to know the family. To take it especially hard to children who were attached to the father with whom there were good relations as they considered.
Or other example, on the street the kid loudly burst into tears, people around make it remarks because it disturbs them. And mom instead of supporting the child or at least to take a neutral position, too begins to abuse or shame the child.
Children only learn to live in this world, the feeling of reliability and the back where it is always possible to return and be in safety is important for them. In a treachery situation they understand that to address them there is nobody, they are necessary to nobody and are not important as there is a wish for it.
Do not climb in private life
First of all, it concerns teenagers. They take the first steps in adulthood, and any blurt, unpleasant painful feelings can raise the comment or doubts. Especially awfully, if parents secretly read correspondences of the child, and then punish if something is not pleasant to them. You should not neglect life of the teenager, of course. But also to be imposed or force to tell everything – too it is impossible. It is ideal if to teenage age you had trusting relationship. But if is not present, it is necessary to work now.
But also at children the private life can be younger. For example, the room or at least the shelf in a case. The personal books, toys to which access at others is limited.
Do not promise what you cannot execute
Dad promised to arrive for the weekend, but, probably, forgot to specify on what. You promised that you present phone for Birthday, and then changed the mind. Before an exit to walk promised ice cream, and then to you began to come laziness into shop. With each such case you undermine confidence of the child to you. He understands that it is impossible to rely on you that personal and important it is better not to share with you because you will deceive again. Also believe, in the future a lot more time this loss of proximity to you will halloo.
Of course, it is difficult to foresee all situations, anyway from time to time we should violate the promises. But in such cases it is necessary to apologize and explain the reason sincerely. Even in case your kid seems to you too small for this purpose. It is better to begin to build the honest and open relations from the very beginning.