Parents often mistakenly choose the system of communication with the child. Cases when in the speech of the adults turned to the child, inadmissible words and phrases which lead to children's mistrust subsequently, to unwillingness to communicate with the family sound are frequent. How it is necessary to speak with the child so that he felt happy and grew at the cheerful self-assured person?
Instruction
1. At the time of rage, irritation parents often pronounce such words with which later it becomes a shame, label the children. Even more often mothers and fathers do not notice at all that they in bad mood state to the child. Eliminate such phrases from the parental lexicon as: - "all have children as children, only at me is unclear that"; - "once again I will see about it (I learn), you at me so will receive"; - "you can do nothing and are not able"; - "disgusting child (dirty, greedy person, meanie)"; - "you have no brains" and other.
2. Words with a prefix "not", turned to the child, are not valid also the child them or does not perceive, or does to spite, contrary to told. Therefore instead of "do not jump", tell better "go, the sonny, near me it is quiet". Instead of "be not malicious" explain what is not pleasant to you in his behavior.
3. Exclude a didactic, commander tone from communication with the child. "Quickly calm down", "immediately gather", "keep silent" and so on would cause a negative in other people, and parents for some reason allow to address the child so. Sudden emotional explosion of the parent brings the child into bewilderment, and he sincerely does not understand it. Choose other ways to achieve required.
4. It is necessary to talk to the child much and often. Do not wave away from his importunate questions of knowledge of the world, explain well, most frankly. Read to the kid more and let him read books to you. Visit the places helping to develop intellectual and powers of thinking of the child, such as museum, exhibitions, dioramas, oceanariums, zoo, theater. Having visited such place, talk about it, explain to the child that it seemed to it not clear.
5. Remember that the physical manhandling used to the child, this primitive means of communication with it and achievements of the purpose. And the parents who are not able to explain to the child in words simple things apply such methods of education.
6. Do not wave away from problems of the child, his bad mood, saying: "Your problems - nonsense". Showing the unwillingness to understand important at the moment for the child of a thing, parents risk to lose his trust under more difficult circumstances in his life.