Of course, each loving parent asked a similar question. Whether not too we are severe to own children? Or perhaps on the contrary, we absolutely softened and the child got out of hand? Anyway, the behavior of the kid is a direct result of parental actions or inaction. Let's try to understand: in what cases it is worth punishing the child and where rather just preventive conversation.
First of all, at each offense of the child, before any reaction, it is worth defining existence of the valid fault and its depth. Perhaps, in a children's act there is your fault? Be honest and do not call for responsibility of the child for others actions. If nevertheless the result of the wrong thinking of your child is available, you should discuss quiet tone with it existence of disagreements between his and your view of a problem. Most often the fair and serious conversation with the child is quite enough. In any kind of punishment be guided only by love for the kid, show that all your actions are directed to his benefit. At educational dialogue follow the following rules:
- you do not become personal, discuss only the phenomenon and your emotional reaction to it,
- be interested in a children's view of a situation and show to it respect,
- give to the child time to think over the event,
- surely begin a conversation with declaration of love.
However, if the bad act of the child is the real crime against the basic rules of existence of your family, you should not give a weak point and it is necessary to nip similar events in the bud. Be constrained and explain to the kid what in your opinion he was mistaken in. After that speak aloud that measure of sentence which you to it impose also the most important — tell for what result all this occurs. The child has to realize from beginning to end all educational process. With your help it will be clear to it why and why he deserved punishment. The most important that the kid understood how it is necessary to behave and similar situations did not arise again.
Remember that punishments it is rare reception for really serious problems in children's behavior. If you begin to abuse this method of education, then soon enough it will lose the efficiency and you, in turn, will lose control over the child. Apply your worldly wisdom accurately that the child, having thought, could agree with your correctness.