Each parent thinks of admissibility and need of punishment of the child. Someone is confident that the child needs to be punished only in extreme cases, and does not even think of punishing him physically. And someone is confident that he punishments, and physical is the only correct measure in techniques of education of children. But who is right?
What it is necessary to punish the child for?
It is necessary to punish the children only in two cases: when the child violates rules about which existence he knows. For example, it was taught that it is impossible to smoke or swear, and it all the same does from time to time it. Well, and the child is punished when he at small age does unconscious acts which threaten it or its safety. For example, if the child actively climbs in the socket or when he runs in dangerous places.
But whether it is worth punishing the child if he violates rules unknown to it or makes acts, unintentional for himself? For example, if the teenager absolutely accidentally breaks the grandmother's vase whether it is required to punish him? Well, here the answer depends only on circumstances. If, for example, it played a ball and broke a vase, then costs and if it broke it during cleaning, then punishment for it is not a really good measure.
As it is correct to punish
- In the course of punishment of the child it is necessary to remember that it is necessary to control the emotions. It is impossible to allow any emotional reactions even if the child does not bring anything, except irritation. This most important rule for the correct and effective punishment.
- It is necessary to explain constantly to the child what behavior is considered extremely inadmissible and deserving the corresponding punishment. It is necessary in order that the child realized and acquired norms of social life.
- Always in advance put the child how you will punish him in case of disobedience or offense. For example, it is possible to tell him that even for the most insignificant offenses it can be torn off from the TV or the computer.
- Always explain to the child what you will punish him for.
- Do not pursue the aim to suppress will of the child, in the course of punishment he has to feel guilty and, whenever possible, apologize. Usually for apologies the child will need several hours.
- Try to obtain obedience, but it is not necessary to do it immediately. Explain it extreme unacceptability of behavior and accept, say, the most standard punishment – take away a prefix. Besides, you should not press on the child, it is better to wait when he realizes everything independently and will ask forgiveness.
- Physical punishment should be used only in the most extreme cases. Ideal option will use physical punishment only 4 years. Physical punishment has to have symbolical character, conditional. For example, slightly to splash and raise the voice. It has to be enough.