Bad progress at school – the most frequent claim to teenagers of parents and teachers. Councils of the psychologist how to behave to parents to motivate the teenager to study.
Find out the reason of school problems
Teenagers are usually accused of laziness and carelessness, however the reasons of poor progress there can be a set – the conflicts with teachers, the conflicts with peers, one-way love. It is important to understand the reason of failures of the child, to show that all of you equally him love and worry together with him. To understand the reasons of bad progress, do not abuse the teenager, and openly discuss with him his problems, find out, what objects are pleasant to him that is difficult and that it is interesting. Communicate to school teachers, ask to pay them more attention to your child. If the child has a conflict with the teacher, do not remain the indifferent observer and you do not hurry to accuse of all the teenager. But at the same time do not encourage disrespect for teachers from the teenager. But anyway, the teenager has to feel your love and readiness to come to the rescue in a difficult situation.
Encourage the teenager to reflection about the future, education value
Violently it is impossible to enclose knowledge in the teenager's head. Without due motivation and desire to study, transfer to school with in-depth study of any given objects, and the address to the tutor will hardly bring result. Therefore it is very important to parents to form the correct spirit of the teenager, inducing it to reflect on the future, choice of profession, study, career. Discuss these opportunities with the teenager, and do not impose on him the opinion on the one whom it has to be. The teenager to seek to become quicker an adult therefore discuss with him that it opens not only new opportunities, but also assumes responsibility for the future.
Whether to check lessons?
Control of you has to be: be interested in school affairs, do not neglect everything. Remind the teenager of need of preparation of homework, ask about whether he prepared lessons what estimates he received at school that was studied today, etc. But try to cultivate in it independence, and interfere with process of preparation of a task as little as possible.
If the teenager asks to help with the solution of a task, then do not solve for it, and reflect and look for the correct answer together with it that subsequently he could cope with a similar task.
Try not to take needlessly the diary, the teenager's notebooks without his permission. At this age the child it is very painful to treat violation of its borders.
Let the child to the teenager know that you trust him and trust, that he is capable to achieve success.