Since kindergarten, and continuing at school, practically in each group (class) there is a girl or the boy whom others concern without due respect, and sometimes is even hostile. Such children are accused of others fault, select their personal belongings and invent offensive nicknames.
Child derelict. How to help him?
Since kindergarten, and continuing at school, practically in each group (class) there is a girl or the boy whom others concern without due respect, and sometimes is even hostile. Such children are accused of others fault, select their personal belongings and invent offensive nicknames.
Who gets into "risk group"?
Often derelicts are children with physiological shortcomings, other nationality or part of society, "botanists" and "four-eyes". Weak the child become from inability to fix borders with other people. Fault to it parents who are very strict demand impossible and apply all decisions for children.
In the educational environment to be good, it is necessary not to be allocated and follow the rest. Unlike adults, children do not control emotion and show the aggression obviously. First there will be one oppressor, but if he does not see repulse, then the group of similar to it is formed over time.
How to help such child?
The popular belief that it is necessary to replace an environment, to have a talk with the offender's parents, to connect the tutor or the head of a class. However in practice this method ineffective. After such actions the child is even more subject to humiliations, and he is considered "mother's darling" incapable to resolve an issue independently. Therefore, children derelicts have to change themselves, and parents only to promote and help.
At first sort out factors of the bad relations to the child. There are problems which can easily be eliminated:
if the child has problems with weight – watch that he ate properly, interest him in sports;
if the child wears glasses – replace them with lenses;
if the child gives a lot of time of study – advise it to be engaged in collective activity in a class, to accept a fate in preparation of a holiday;
if the child is badly dressed – buy him fashionable clothes (normal things for children can be got also in stock shops).
It is much more difficult when defects are not eliminated for the objective reasons. For example, physiological deviations or inappropriate nationality. Here it is necessary to help the child to find such hobby or occupation in which it would have an opportunity to achieve big results. It can be computer technologies, different types of sport or applied art.
Listen to the interests of the child and support him. In any case, do not talk about as if all around bad and spiteful. On the contrary, show to the child as it is possible to change people, having changed themselves before. It will be for him a real discovery.