The increased aggression of children is considered one of widespread problems not only for teachers and psychologists, but also for society. Increase in children's crime and number of the children inclined to aggressive forms of behavior is the reasons of studying psychological conditions which cause such dangerous phenomena.
During the conflict usually parents say to children that it is necessary to solve problems peacefully. Usually it quite so also occurs if it children's disagreements. But when the child is a fighter, it is necessary to find out from where he has an aggression.
If in family the parents constantly quarrel, and the child sees all this, then it will be very difficult for it to explain that it is not necessary to fight. The conflicts in family become the reason that the child is nervous, becomes disturbing, and it is more difficult to it to be balanced during the dispute with peers. Children always imitate parents and that adults who surround them. Therefore it is important to smile more often, help not only to the relatives, but also unfamiliar people. The child involuntarily sees the positive relation of the adult to life, and later it will form the positive attitude towards people around. And when the kid constantly observes quarrels of parents with neighbors or in transport, he will consider that aggression it is normal. As a result, in kindergarten, and then and at school, this embitternment can become the cause of quarrels and fights.
Often fathers, without realizing it, want to bring up the man from the boy. And therefore they advise the son to be strong, courageous, but do not consider, that it is necessary to be also constrained and to concede to weak. Many parents encourage aggressive behavior of the child during the quarrel. But it is better if adults are not glad for a victory in a fight, and will offer other solutions of the conflict, telling examples from life or from books.
The mentality of the child develops also taking into account information from movies and telecasts where lately use of physical force for achievement of a victory is welcomed. As a result children have idols who not always kind and peaceful. Being in society, the child repeats their behavior. Therefore you should not show to the child animated films in which heroes are aggressive in relation to other characters.
Even when the child grows at the peaceful person, it does not mean that in collective there are no other fighters, and it will be able to avoid fights completely. The main thing that he did not become the instigator of a quarrel. Then reasons for a fight at it will be much less.