Children's fears penetrate life of kids lengthways and in across. But, many fears pass completely with age, and have under themselves the unreasonable soil. In the first years of life the child is afraid of loud sounds, sharp shouts, big animals. Such behavior is natural as the kid studies the events around himself. He needs to understand who to him the enemy and who the friend.
Sometimes fears are transferred from mother to the child. Without realizing that the child feels nervousness of mother, mother behaves excessively emotionally at the sight of a thunder and a lightning or other factors.
Fear of darkness, loneliness, the closed space are the most widespread. Thus, the fear is inevitable as it is protective function of an organism. If not to fight with them, they can lead to violations of a day regimen that cannot, will not affect his health.
Also leading children's fear are negative experiences which the kid saw, and they strongly sat down at consciousness. It can be a quarrel of parents or the seen accident. But, the strongest fear at all times for the child the fear of parting with mother is considered. If parting is inevitable, then leave the child for a while. Long parting with mother can cause a depression and nervous breakdowns in the child. At first he can cease to eat, the sleep is interrupted and there can be deviations in development of the child. For example, such situations can arise at mother's entry into work.
How to behave in this situation? Never force the child to overcome fear, reaction can be unpredictable. There will pass time, and the child will laugh at the experienced fears. Of course, you should not laugh as you injure the child. He will be closed from you.
Support is very important anyway. Let the kid feel your support. But, if your case drags on, and the condition of the child is aggravated, surely address the expert who will consult you.
To children is more senior it is possible to recommend the following method. Put before the child of paint and a clean Whatman paper. Ask the kid to draw the fear. Let will tell what imagines it. The art is therapy, is the leader among different technologies.
The kid with pleasure to agree to such experiment. It is possible to judge by color of the drawing as far as the fear has terrible outlines. Lighter of tone point that the fear has not the constant form, and soon the child to cope with it. With drawings of black and blue shades it is necessary to be on the lookout. With alarm of the kid it will be necessary to work.