Awkward age – time of both physical change of a body of the child, and internal. At this age there are strong contradictions between the teenager and parents. To the teenager the new world with a set of interesting events and opportunities opens, however its freedom is still limited to walls of a home and, for example, need to come back home in certain time. In each family the similar conflicts are endured especially individually: someone gives to the child more freedom, than it is required, and someone, on the contrary, controls each step of the child. What to do to parents and how to behave to teenagers?
First of all, both parents, and their children should learn to hear and understand each other. Adults should not interfere with all affairs of the sons and daughters, it is necessary to leave the place for the secrets and secrets, in that case the child himself will want to share the experiences and achievements with parents. Ask questions, be interested in life of the child, however, do not try to read his diaries at all and you will cause to open correspondences – similar acts only aggression and a bigger misunderstanding. Teenagers, in turn, should not refuse completely the help of parents, should not try to be discharged of them. The more there will be a trust from the child, the more there will be freedom from adults. Besides, in difficult situations the support of parents is very important, you should not refuse from it because of own pride.
Adults have to accept that time in which they live, to try to watch novelties. It will be pleasant to the teenager if his parents are "fashionable" and will always be aware of the events in the world. In that case it will be able to share with them the interests, between parents and children there will be more understanding. You should not deprive of the child of an opportunity to use modern technologies, however, it is necessary to teach the teenager to be interested also in other things: for example, do not forbid your son or the daughter to play on the computer, however, do not forget to put in its room a big case with the interesting books suitable for his / her age, take away the child in a circle which will be interesting to it. Encourage hobbies of the teenager as at this age your support and support is important for it. The teenager, in turn, has to understand that not always parents are capable to follow technical novelties therefore he can tell about them and impart experience that, of course, will even more strengthen the relations between it and his family.
Build the relations with the relatives on trust and mutual support, then all possible conflicts will avoid you, and understanding and harmony will reign in family.