In life of many parents there comes once such moment when they face the child's contradictions. Literally on all of you will hear: "No", "This mine", "Leave alone me", "I do not want", "I will not be". It is that period when the child endures a sincere stress, and your task as parents to help the child to cope with contradictions without causing damage to sincere health of the child. What occurs in the child's soul?
Know that that moment when the child wants to show the identity came. He feels its existence, but does not understand how it is not possible to prove and, as a result, can control the emotions. Besides, some independence and independence which he is afraid for fear to remain lonely and unaccepted is now necessary for the teenager. Also in imagination of the child the world around is ideal, but when he begins to look at it with own eyes, he sees many discrepancies bringing it into bewilderment. Of course, such feelings inside long will not sit, gradually pouring out in the form of contradictions.
What should I do?
The most important is not to panic. Remember that discrepancy – one of the obligatory periods of life which all the same will end soon. The main thing that the result was positive. Your task is to help the child as soon as possible to come to a victory over by itself and to realize that the discrepancy of the child is not caused him by bad character which already late to change.
Do not push away the child from yourself when he is in this period, and, on the contrary, try to spend with it much time, cause it on equal and straight talks about emotions and feelings. Let the child tell everything to you. Try as well to share feelings, to tell about the reactions and experiences to the events.
Such conversations will do the child good and will be for him a lesson and simplification of a stress. He will understand that he is not lonely in this world that it has parents and friends who will be able always to come to the rescue.