It is considered to be that a divorce – it is sad, dirty and hopeless. It is almost impossible to agree, it is necessary to fight all the time. If the divorce did not manage to be avoided - adults should not hide the head in sand and to represent happy family. Have courage to explain to the child that, looking at what, you love it, and he will not lose not one of parents. All of us at heart know that most of all child needs love of two parents. Yes, sometimes to agree happens not simply.
What can help
Try to divide roles. Now you are the former spouses... and real parents. Do not mix emotion. The fact that your second half was for you improper couple does not mean at all that he is a bad parent. Besides we want or not, the spouse also strongly loves the child.
Do not abuse negative emotions and do not come down to stereotypes when men are convinced that all female bitches also demand money, and the woman - that all men villains and money do not give. And never forget: the former parents are not.
Be attentive and provident at communication with ""former"". When you talk to the business partner, choose words, a mimicry, the meeting place, time, clothes. The situation with the former spouse differs in nothing. You already divorced and between you there was only one general sphere - your child. Both of you want him to be successful, so work at it.
What to lean on
As it is not strange, but on the legislation. Obligations of parents in relation to children are stated in the Family Code. Divorce does not remove these legislations in any way, and just in some moments transforms their performance. We quietly carry out traffic regulations and we do not wait until us through court force them to carry out. What keeps waiting until we are forced to fulfill the requirements of the law, in relation to own child? That prevents us to execute them voluntarily, keeping the advantage.
It is possible to count approximately how many it is necessary for your child on normal life in a month and to incur the part of expenses, without waiting for the legal claim. With issues of education it is more difficult, but also here it is possible to reach compromise and to agree. Be adult, responsible parents. It is not simple, efforts are required, but your child will estimate it.