The parent to be troublesome therefore adults do not manage to stop and think whether it is easy for their children. Unless there was no situation when you many years ago swallowed of offense and promised themselves that you will not begin to hurt own children in vain? But there passed time, and in lots of cares you forget that the child — let small, but the personality.
Your child should meet many difficulties in life therefore do not add to it troubles which are easy for avoiding.
1. Think what you tell.
- You come on a visit, and the kid, ironing a master's cat, joyfully reports: "The grandfather says that from cats any I pound — only eat, and mice at us and so not!" Later you will reproach him with fieriness, without thinking, as sin with similar.
- It is unpleasant to your child when you say to girlfriends that minutes of strong nervousness it can not reach a toilet and the stories touching its advantage ("You represent, so is afraid of usual caterpillars — squalls as the little girl!"), it is impossible to deem appropriate.
On tactlessness
- the stories about childbirth accompanied with emotional descriptions of how you "nearly died" of terrible pain are on the second place. They do not put the kid in an awkward situation, but force to test fault for what he caused to mom of trouble.
- Children do not state claims concerning parental fieriness, but present yourself on the place of the child and think whether it is possible to consider your behavior correct.
2. Be consecutive.
- Nobody differs in bigger conservatism, than the children accustoming to the unfamiliar world. They do not object against day passed according to one scenario with accurate observance of time of walks, games, bathings. Your child is capable to listen every day to the same fairy tale or to revise the favourite animated film!
- From confusion in educational receptions at the child the head goes around not less, than from violations in a day regimen. Requirements should not change: if you convince the kid how it is impossible to fight, then do not reproach that he did not hit back to the offender. Clear up all moments that the child did not feel confused.
- All family members have to have identical educational receptions. If the grandmother tells one, dad another, and mom — the third, the kid does not know to whom to listen!
3. Do not play the hypocrite.
- Think whether you the behavior set a bad example. Happens, dad says that it is impossible to cross the road on red light, but from time to time says: "There are no cars, went!" Or mom, having politely had a talk with the neighbor, releases a caustic remark behind the back, and then abuses the kid for roughness in relation to people around.
- Of course, you do not teach children to deceive or palter, but your words disperse from affairs. For yourself you find mitigating circumstances, but when the child tries to justify the miss, demand: "Do not wriggle, have courage to be responsible for the acts!"
- And to the kid happens awkwardly for double standards of adults. To save him from unpleasant experiences, try to take a detached view more often of yourself and to be the sensitive, loving and sympathetic parents.