How it is necessary to bring up the child correctly? How it is better to punish the child?
As a rule, education of children is the very difficult and thin process demanding attentiveness and keenness. Each parent for the child puts, if I may say so, "base" from moral values, rules of discipline, moral principles, etc. And, of course, during such hard "construction" it is necessary to abuse and punish sometimes the child that does not want to be done extremely to none of adults.
Parents punish children for bad discipline, for outstanding instructions, for tricks which could not be done, etc. And, certainly, each parent punishes the child, far without enjoying it, and thinking how to make so that the child obeyed, observed discipline and understood everything from the first.
Psychologists claim that the child should not be limited in many respects at all that is done by many parents. There has to be surely permissibility degree, those actions which can be done are accurately stipulated. Thus, the child will feel like more adult, will begin to trust the parents and to consult on them more. It is necessary to communicate with the child on an equal basis, without forgetting thereby about authority. If the child was guilty of something, then it is necessary to punish him. If disobedience repeated – toughen punishment.
Punishment should not bear either physical violence, or psychological at all. If you doubt whether the child of punishment deserved, it is better not to punish at all. In case the child made several neposlushaniye, it is better to punish once, but is strong, but not in turn for everyone. Also it is necessary to take into account that the child is a formed personality therefore to humiliate, offend and also it is impossible to compare to other people at all.
It is better for parent to lead an educational discussion and reasonings in the happened occasion once again. The child has to talk, have with you contact even during the quarrel. It will help to reveal to it and to speak, perhaps, the happened circumstance is not casual.
Surely encourage and award the child for good behavior. Next time he will not make unnecessary acts. Of course, he will want to hear on the contrary a kind word or to win some prize. It is necessary to understand children, first of all. Punishments without special occasion will not help, and on the contrary will do much harm to your child. If not you do not know how to arrive in some situations, it is better to address the psychologist, to you to build life to your child.