Adoption of the child is one of the most important decisions for many married couples. Not all are ready to take this step, but if the decision is made finally and irrevocably, it is necessary to think of problems which can arise at education.
Problems can be divided into 3 groups conditionally:
- adaptation of the adopted child in new family; - heredity;
- health of the child. Adaptation of the adopted child in new the semyeusynovlyaemy child practically at any age has not the most iridescent experience. And even if at once to surround it with the maximum care and love the endured spiritual wounds at first will be anyway, but to be shown. It can be concern or sleep disorder, lack of appetite, non-standard reactions to what is done by parents. At the first stage it is wrong to believe that heat, care, the cozy house and various toys will at once change the child. It often has questions why it was thrown why they left why earlier nobody cared for it and did not love. It is necessary to be prepared for such problems in advance and in case of need to give to the child psychological support. It is not necessary to be frightened if the child begins to become isolated or, on the contrary, to splash out the collected emotions outside.
The child can sometimes begin to reject parents, and various ways: to use foul language, to badly behave, think out the tricks causing negative reaction from adults. These problems are solvable, the main thing to exercise in them judgment and to address in case of need the psychologist. Often there is a reverse situation. The child who did not receive the sufficient volume of love in the past tries to meet this lack and very strongly becomes attached to those who care for it, it can be not only parents, and any person taking attention and care to the child. In a similar situation the child has several objects of adoration, but actually it leads to the fact that the child to anybody is not attached really. He is passive and trustful that is a certain sort a problem for establishment of the normal relations and contacts with people around and first of all with parents. In the course of education there is it that parents, without finding contact with the child, begin to blame not only themselves, but also it that he does not appreciate them, does not try to improve the relations, causes the conflicts and quarrels. But in this case parents just forget that the similar behavior is just protection from the child, most often it is sewn up at the subconscious level on all that was endured by the kid earlier. It is not necessary to refuse in this case the child (and it often meets), it is necessary to consult to experts and to resolve all problems with their help. At the correct approach already through a short period the child will change behavior and will be not only is happy itself, but also will make happy the adoptive parents. NasledstvennostMnogiy adoptive parents in panic are afraid of heredity, and it often becomes one of problems in education. Fear of heredity appears not just like that, and from behind long-term statements that apple from an apple-tree not far falls, and the child of the alcoholic, the addict, the unsuccessful person will also not be able to become the good and full member of society. But similar opinion – the remnant of the past, genetics more than once proved that the heredity though influences personal development, but is not dominating. Only education is capable to create the identity of the child and what he will grow up will depend only on it. It is not necessary to be afraid of heredity, it is not necessary to be afraid of the fact that parents of the child put in him something bad. It is necessary to think of how to make so that your approach to education did not provoke negative consequences first of all. ZdoroveZdorove of the adopted child frightens parents not less, than heredity. Fears are justified as often education of the child in orphanage does not allow to be engaged closely in his health, but it should not frighten future parents. The level of development of medicine is so high now that all available problems with health easily are solved. And diseases are often not so serious that to intimidate themselves by them. Especially there is a probability that even at the healthiest child of a problem with health are sometimes shown with age, but from a similar situation nobody is insured absolutely. If you made up the mind to very serious and responsible step, weigh all pros and cons not to make a mistake and not to do harm to either the child, or yourself. Problems will always be, but at the correct approach they will be resolved almost instantly. At education of the adopted child it is necessary to consider each step and an act as what the child will grow up will depend only on you and as he will treat you and people around. In most cases in foster homes both children, and parents are happy, and often it is impossible to assume that the child nonnative.