In development each kid passes through a number of crisis age. For example, crisis of three years is shown in children's egoism and master's the relation to all surrounding. It is often possible to hear "mine" and "mine". Because of avarice between children there are conflicts which so upset their parents.
Bringing up the child owner, it is worth remembering that at this age he feels like the personality and accurately differentiates the "I" and the world around. All that surrounds it, is regarded as its property which to share or not, he solves independently.
First of all it is not necessary to shame or abuse the child for the fact that he does not want to share with others. And it is not necessary to give someone the things belonging to the kid too. Toys of the child are his property, he can dispose of them at own discretion. Also you should not allow other adults to call the child the greedy person at all. The kid has to feel support from parents. And to whom as the adult to know that personal belongings are property which can dispose as it will be necessary. And if in group of children one began to cry, without having received, the fact that wanted, you should not make someone guilty.
To teach the child to share, it is possible to follow several steps which will help the kid to overcome avarice over time. Parents should explain to the child that having given for a while a toy to another, it can be received back. Often children consider that having given the thing, will never receive it back. To try to carry out "exchange". Playing with other children, it is always possible to allow to play the toys, and in exchange to receive something interesting. Always it is necessary to leave to the child own choice. Time is its thing, to it to solve, to share or not.
There are cases when in family where several children, there is no need to speak to the senior child that he conceded in something younger. Children have to be equal. But in case concessions occur at the initiative of the senior child, it is necessary to praise and thank for attention.
You should not focus attention on cases when the child does not want to share. For example, when guests and, by itself came, they will want to play with new interesting things. The child can apprehend it in bayonets, and arrangements in that case will not help. It is necessary to involve all in the general game where everyone will be able to feel, and the conflict will disappear.
Of course, parents will feel ill at ease when children do not want to share. But it is worth treating it with attention and respect. To bring up the child the full-fledged personality, you should not muffle the similar phenomena. Having well explained what can be done and that is not present, it will be simpler to child to function in society further.