The issue of mutual understanding in family is very important, problems of the house cause an irreparable psychological loss to all family members. The issue of education of children and search of common language is particularly acute.
Agree that we rather often face cases when the angered mom shouts at the child because it dropped something, it was soiled, etc. As a result the kid cries, without understanding why shout at him. Yes, mom can be understood — as a rule, on her all family, at it eternally a heap of affairs keeps, she is tired and has practically not a rest, nerves are saved … But of what the child is guilty?
Why as a result of your overfatigue your nerves and nerves of people around have to suffer? It is possible to find a way to quietly explain to the child what he made not so that it did not repeat any more. And you if you feel that you forces on an outcome — ask day off for the family and are recharged — let rest and smiles reign in family.
Also It should be noted that shouts in family bring a number of problems:
1) A psychological trauma which will disturb as in the childhood, and in the future.
2) Complex and isolation.
3) Diffidence.
4) The child will be afraid to undertake some affairs and studies something, he remembered that at each failure he received from parents instead of support, the help and explanations one aggression and shout.
5) Problems with communication.
6) If mom and dad set a bad example to children, then as a result children in the future will have same problems in family because of the same behavior and shouts.
Therefore here several councils:
1) You do not shout and do not swear — try to solve all problems a quiet explanation, examples, stories and it is better to treat sometimes something even with humour — protect the nerves and families.
2) Set a good and worthy example.
3) Support each other in any situation (it is very important) and you say at least sometimes that you very much love each other.
4) If you have no forces at some point to tolerate behavior of the child — tell it that you were tired and you can (even perhaps unwillingly) to abuse him in a temper.
Try to preserve the peace in family — both in the relations with children, and with relatives. If something disturbs you — learn to talk, but not to save in itself. Always put yourself to the place of another before to tell something or to make. (For example, kind of you reacted if soiled a dress, and the husband would not support you, and shouted). All have to have a rest and find calm houses, not without reason tell "My house — my fortress". More humour, as we know, laughter prolongs life.