"Mom does not understand me at all, and does not want to understand!" Such complaints can be heard not only from teenagers, but also from mature people who have own children. Yes, so happens that with the loved one – own mother – sometimes it is hard to find a common language. Such problem can arise both at daughters, and at sons. Natural question: why, in what the reason?
In what the misunderstanding reason between mother and the daughter
Any normal mother wants good to the child therefore she worries for it, tries to warn against mistakes, to allocate for trouble. If the woman has a daughter, mother instinctively transfers to her the experience concerning literally all aspects of life, including the relations with an opposite sex. For example, if this experience was not too successful, the woman is afraid that the same fate can befall its matured daughter therefore tries to control each her step, to be aware where she spends time what guys she meets, etc. It is natural that not each adult girl is capable to be reconciled resignedly with it. And she draws a conclusion: "Mom does not understand me, makes an ass, considers the silly girl". As a result there are quarrels, scandals, mutual reproaches.
Happens and so: too imperious mother demands from the daughter of implicit obedience, even in case the daughter married long ago and lives separately. She sincerely considers that her opinion on any question has to be "ultimate truth". By itself, sooner or later it will bother the daughter. Without saying that the son-in-law for certain mothers-in-law, not delighted with such self-confident impudence! Here and ready reason for reproaches in misunderstanding.
At last, the speech can go about a discrepancy of views, tastes, habits. In this case all can be corrected easily, having come to a mutually acceptable compromise.
Because of what there are the son's conflicts with mother
Some mothers who are especially bringing up boys without husbands make very serious mistake: try to bring up sons as daughters. They zealously, worthy the best application, literally smother in them male qualities: independence, an initiative, healthy aggression (it is good, of course, moderately). It is even worse if at the same time they surround sons with really suffocating care. As a result the son can "explode" sooner or later, revolting against maternal guardianship which is simply humiliating for his male vanity. And mother, feeling offended and betrayed, sincerely does not understand what is the matter? She wanted as it is better! Very frequent cause of the conflicts of mother with the son, mutual reproaches in misunderstanding – a notorious problem "the daughter-in-law – the mother-in-law". Alas, not all women can quietly accept the fact that their adored boys have now family life where parents should not interfere even.