Undoubtedly, parents wish to the child all the best, love him and try to preserve against all possible difficulties. The unconditional love of parents and their care makes the child happy. Such children receive enough attention to feel sure and favourite.
Parental love as education basis
It should be noted that the parental love is a basis in emotional development of children. Children who did not get love of parents feel unfortunate and lonely at the subconscious level.
Often they are less sociable, initiative, benevolent. Without having an example of unconditional love, they consider that love it is necessary to deserve. Such position most likely will bring them problems in the future, in their adulthood, in particular, in the family relations.
The child sharply feels the need for unconditional parental love: he needs recognition and approval of its actions, acceptance by his parents with all shortcomings and imperfections. The parental love gives feeling of psychological safety, security and comfort. Such child shows the feelings more openly, he is liberated, transfers failures and difficulties easier, is less susceptible to opinion and estimates surrounding. The danger not to get parental love is that even maturing, it is difficult to person to forget the got sincere wounds and offenses. He remembers indifference of parents, their neglect or reproaches distinctly. Growing, such children receive the distorted model of relationship, in the childhood it seemed to them that they it is worse, than the others.
Shortcomings of excessive parental guardianship
On the contrary, excessive parental guardianship is capable to do much harm to the child. The child grows up infantile: it is difficult to it to make decisions independently and to take the responsibility for them. The hyper sponsored child develops in the emotional plan much more slowly, it is difficult to it to study independence, and, as a result, it gains necessary social skills more slowly. Often such child begins to believe in the helplessness, parents do not give him the chance to make something without their control and the help. The child becomes uneasy, uncertain, lacking initiative, clamped. Excessive care of parents does not give the chance to the child independently to make the choice and to learn to solve disputable situations. Because parents prevent the child to learn to gain experience necessary to it, it has a false consciousness, that is the distorted idea of itself, the potential, actions. Such children can grow up whimsical, sensitive, irritable, lazy. It is necessary to remember that it is impossible to save the child from everything, anyway, in order that he grew up self-assured, purposeful and strong, for him it is necessary as well negative experience. He has to learn to behave correctly in losing situations, the conflicts, in various difficulties. It is recommended to give to the child advice, to talk to him, but not to solve all for him.