In the first year of life of the child all foundation of his further relation to the world is laid. The more fears and the kid feels concerns during this period, the it will be more difficult to trust and feel safe to it in the future. The most large role in it is played with how his communication with mom or other person close to it is based.
Our very first fears are born together with us. For the newborn baby new everything around: each sound, each smell, color, a subject, feeling - it for the first time faces all this and does not know how to interact with the world opening to it. He is not independent at all and is not protected therefore any phenomenon breaking tranquility and stability around is perceived as threat. It can be sharp loud sounds, falling of objects, fast movements from other person or the general loss of support.
In the same time in development of concern in the child the dissatisfaction of his basic requirements can be significant: dream, food, temperature condition. The baby is not capable to satisfy them therefore the felt discomfort gives rise to alarm.
Closer by 7-8 months two more fears appear: to lose mom (or the face is full-fledged her replacing) and fear of other people. They are caused by the fact that the child is already capable to separate "" from "strangers" and at the same time begins to allocate mom from crowd. If it was not so important earlier who exactly satisfies his requirements, then understanding comes now that mom most often nearby, she feeds, changes clothes, consoles and pleases. Mom to become the center of the Universe and a source of pleasure. Of course, to lose such significant person very terribly. And there are also absolutely strangers from whom it is still unknown what to expect.
PRACTICAL ADVICE:
1. In the first year of life of the child it is very important to create for it a habitual comfortable situation and to be near, react constantly to each his manifestation of concern – for the most little men it is a guarantee that the world is safe and that always, at any moment, there is the one who will save who will help who will take care. In psychology it is accepted to call this state Basic Trust to the World which is reflected in the future in all our life. Also do not keep him waiting, small are not able to wait yet, it for us time is estimated seconds, and for newborns the minute can seem the whole eternity.
2. The emotional contact with people who interact with it is very important for babies. Through positive emotions he learns a lot of things about this world, first of all, that it in safety in an environment of people, benevolent to it. Smile more often to the kid, talk to him, embrace, stroke, at any opportunity come to him into contact.
3. When yours the baby was frightened of sharp sounds or movements, surely take it on hands or just lie down nearby, talk to it, embrace, calm, distract – do not leave it in private with the fears, it is at all not that age when the person is able to cope with the experiences.
4. In the second half of the year of life of the kid it is better for mom not to leave from it at all. But if she after all is forced to make it, it is worth satisfying several conditions. First, with the child there has to be someone very familiar to him: dad, the grandmother, the grandfather, the elder brother / sister – the person, communication with whom for the baby will be pleasant and habitual. Secondly, it is desirable that the situation was the acquaintance around, ideally it is the house, where do you live.
5. Treat seriously natural zarozhdeniye of the new relations of your children with the world. It is really very valuable stage in their life. Often seem to adults nonsense of experience of kids: "well here it, me only an hour will not be near" or "he so lovely complains when it on hands was taken by the kind neighbor". It we understand that the neighbor really kind, but for the baby she absolutely unknown and terrible person, and you are included in the category of people on whom it is already not always possible to rely. And you everything hour will not be at home it, and you know that you will precisely return, and for your child this hour can infinitely last long and whether he will see you still though sometime, he does not know.
6. Have patience. It is really heavy, year also to be in complete dependence from this defenseless being more, to be hourly with it and only with it. But children have property to grow, their requirements change, their ways of interaction with the world change, the circle of people with whom they learn to communicate, constantly extends. Already closer by one and a half years you will notice how more free you become. And than better need of the kid for safety "is covered", the his Basic Trust to the World is more developed, the less it will cling in the future to you, the quicker will be able to release you.