The kid grows, together with growth his requirements change. After a year the family becomes the most important of what influences a state and development of the child. How the relationship in family is built up, plays a significant role and in development or overcoming fears of little people.
The age from a year to three years is characterized by increase in consciousness, office of the I from others, understanding of differences between boys and girls, adults and children begins to be formed. Closer by two years at kids the feeling "mine wakes up. At this age children do not need a large number of people around yet, including peers, but unlike the first months of life when mom was necessary for the baby first of all, all family in general begins to play a significant role in development. This lived experience promotes forming of a system of hierarchy in the relations with relatives, ways of interaction and communication are acquired. Respectively, if the situation in family unstable and emotionally intense, it promotes the increased uneasiness that is expressed in the general condition of the kid. It is the period of the fears connected with experience of loneliness, vulnerability. Closer by three years the fear appears to fill up.
The second important factor during the period from a year to three years are an actively developing skills of possession of the body: ability to go, tell, use objects, control over physiological functions. About three years when skills of interaction with the outside world become more fulfilled, I appear familiar to all "". Even earlier children begin to realize such feelings as is "cold", "sharp", "painfully". Visit of policlinic where it was necessary to endure the painful procedure, can fix the fear of people, most relevant for this age, in white dressing gowns and pricks. Here it is possible to carry fears of insects, falling, fire and any situation which can potentially cause painful or unpleasant feelings in a body.
PRACTICAL ADVICE:
1. Very significant at this age is an atmosphere in the house. In frictionless and cheerful family the kid feels comfortable, he is capable to develop actively and to live quietly some injuring situations. The family in that case to become the guarantor of stability and safety of the world around.
2. Kids from a year to three years continue to be emotionally attached and dependent on mom and other close family members – for them it is vital requirement as forming of the relations with the rest of the world was not created yet. Therefore any situation breaking stability will be taken painfully. From the most stressogenny it is possible to allocate the birth of the following child in family here, the beginning of visit of kindergarten and the room in a hospital (especially without mom) – if it cannot be avoided, it is necessary to treat with sincere understanding to experiences of the kid and to take all possible measures to be more with it, to show the love, care and protection. Play with it more often, talk, embrace, have fun, try to please – then any fears disappear quickly.
3. Have patience if the baby does not allow you even to leave the room. To release you, it needs to grow at first to full understanding that the world is safe, and you do not disappear anywhere. And they grow, I assure you – everything is good in its season.
4. The fear of pricks and doctors is display of natural human requirement to avoid pain. Having for the first time designated these feelings is closer by a year, the person will always treat them as to danger. And it is normal! Here it is important not to save the children from this fear completely, and to help them to live with the smallest stress this experience. For this purpose never and frighten nobody by doctors, and try to create a positive and kind image of the person in a white dressing gown. Play "bolnichka", together "you treat" hares and bears, tell about this profession and some stories from life of doctors. Explain for what any given procedure is performed as it will last long – even if the child is not capable to understand everything yet, your confidence and a timbre of a voice will help it to calm down and be adjusted. And never leave at this age of the baby of one alone with doctors, take it on hands, stroke, talk.
5. It would be desirable to allocate with separate point a factor which can affect the general disturbing and unsatisfied condition of the child. As it was already told earlier, from a year to three years our children actively master space and possibilities of the body. If during this period the parents forbid a lot of things, do not allow to realize the desires, to try something new, prefer to make all for the child, they disturb satisfaction of significant requirement of age – to learn the world and themselves through "making", interaction with objects. Unsatisfied requirement always leads to increase in the general level of uneasiness. Therefore the bans only in exceptional cases when a certain activity does harm to the kid or, for example, when mom really is late will be the most reasonable here. In other cases wash the floors together, let's clasp this resistant button, to pour milk in a mug and even to knife bread. In total under supervision, all together, but not instead of the child.