The age from five to seven years is the beginning of formation of a self-assessment and understanding of an extremity of life. And many fears of this period are connected with these two moments.
Aged from five up to seven years the child learns to think of abstract concepts, learns to generalize, classify and on a basis it to draw own conclusions. Often asks questions from category of space and time: "from where everything undertook?", "what occurs then?", "why there live people?" It already consciously acquires rules of communication, games, interactions of people among themselves. Here very important is a friendship with peers, ability to cooperate and develop healthy feeling of the competition. Children at this age begin to think of categories good-bad, correct-wrong, honest-false. And over time and to think of the future.
From here also the main fear of this period – fear of death undertakes (the or close people). And also derivative of it: fears of attack, a disease, animals, wars, elements, heights – all that can lead to threat of life. In addition, there is still a category of fears which can appear at the child whether there will be he / she beautiful, whether will cope with difficulties, whether will be able to marry.
PRACTICAL ADVICE:
1. Parents should remember two very important things: it is impossible to lie to children that death does not exist or that it is not terrible (so-called denial), but it is impossible also to force additional experiences around this subject. It is undoubted the fact that the adult it is allowed difficult – to keep balance not to roll down in one of these parties. Tell the truth that death it up to the end nobody the understood phenomenon that you do not know a lot of things about it, but do not show the nervousness and horror before it. You should not lie to children that you will never die, you will always be with them, but place emphasis that it will occur not soon. That most often people live up to an old age, and you can not become when he is already an adult.
2. In cases with fear of attack, diseases and other it is possible to sort each case separately with the children. That diseases are treated, even dangerous. That did not attack you it is necessary to be ostorozhy. It is possible to tell what there is a sequence of actions at elements and other unforeseen situations. The most important to give to the child confidence that from the majority of terrible situations there is always an exit, there is always a solution.
3. When the fear concerns doubts of the child in the forces, beauty, mind, it is impossible to deride and laugh the matter off at all. Be respectful to arising a self-assessment and feeling of the child.
4. If in family cordial and trusting relationship, then you do not focus attention on similar experiences of this age – as a rule, it is the passing stage. It is worth paying special attention only in case fears become persuasive and yarkovyrazhenny.