Here and it, a new stage in life of all family - the child goes to school! But new duties and abilities bear for themselves and new disorders and experiences which need to be considered.
In seven years the child goes to school and it leaves a huge mark on its consciousness. He becomes the real "member of society", seeks for performance of norms, obligations, in it call of duty is born – there are formations of social sense of responsibility. The majority of fears of children aged from seven up to eleven years concerns experiences to be not that who is respected about whom well speak and who is appreciated. Here fears to make a mistake, to be responsible at a board, experience of sense of guilt for actions which are condemned by parents and society belong.
In addition at this age fears of all otherworldly and unusual begin to figure prominently: vampires, skeletons, alien newcomers, "dark forces". At the same time both frightens the child, and bewitches, and pulls a magnet everything that he cannot explain yet.
PRACTICAL ADVICE:
1. For the child at this age is conditions of "double standards" and not clear instructions are very painful. Try to explain rules of conduct and to impose requirements in the most accurate and simple form. This good time for a talk "about life", about ethical standards, children as a sponge absorb a lot of things now. But so far you should not philosophize and moralizatorstvovat excessively. You should not frighten the child by even more long and difficult reflections which not always adults can do even.
2. Give to the child the chance to be mistaken. The main thing that he has to acquire at this age that all are mistaken, everyone has the right to it. Important another – to learn to correct the errors.
3. Such fears pass by itself over time. Inept tests to behave in society gradually turn into steady skills. But support from adults and gradual increase in self-confidence is for this purpose very important.
4. As for fears of the beyond, than more inspired child, especially is subject he to these fears. Perhaps, for some children the ban on viewing similar movies, transfers, readings "horror stories" will be the best prevention.
5. In other cases it is possible to accompany on the contrary children, to tell the stories, the reflections on this subject. Here it is important to observe balance: to show that all this beyond can be a part of our life, but it not so frightening and unknown as can seem. It is important to show the easy and sure attitude to mystical.
6. If the fear becomes more persuasive, look at transfers about that as horror films are shot – show that all this ordinary actors and scenery. Find information on authors of "horror stories" - let the child know that all these books are written by ordinary people. Tell about how in the childhood were afraid "Of black Sheets and Green Eyes and when grew, understood that nothing it exists actually.