The jealousy is one of the main motives of break in relations between beloved. Among the causes of family quarrels only the financial conflicts can be put on a step above. Thus, if you want to construct strong family, it is necessary to learn to struggle with jealousy.
Types of jealousy
The reasons of jealous behavior are different. In general it is peculiar to all people. Some prefer to express the jealousy rectilinearly and spontaneously, it is simpler to others to hide emotions and to carry offense in themselves. The last will prefer to make careful investigation, trying to discover treason traces in e-mail and the mobile phone of the beloved, and only then to show proofs.
Besides, differs also reactions of people to jealousy. According to a number of psychologists, the third part of the interviewed men and women considered jealousy of the soulmates a peculiar shake-up for their relations without which they would become boring and "fresh". The remained part of respondents carry jealousy of the darlings and elects of shortcomings.
In separate group it is possible to allocate justified jealousy when the partner really tries to flirt with each counter. Usually such behavior is inherent in diffident people therefore they also seek to catch attention of all around and to prove to people around and, first of all, itself that they cost something. In this situation it is possible to adhere to a neutrality or to decide on straight talk with the soulmate. It is necessary to tell it about experiences and to surround with love and care that it did not need attention on the party.
How to cease to be jealous?
There are situations when from outside everything looks absolutely normally, however at heart you are torn apart by doubts. The uncertainty begins to torment at once after leaving of darling the house – where it? And with whom? Usually similar experiences are based on own diffidence. A way out – to begin to love itself and to cease to treat itself excessively self-critically. Sometimes the similar feeling of jealousy covers housewives. They have nothing to be engaged therefore they also try to convict blessed of treason and inflate from a fly of an elephant. Itself should only advise them to find work to liking in a similar situation. Then negative thoughts will disappear by itself. According to psychologists if you are visited unreasonable jealousy in relation to darling recently, there is no need at once to show him suspicions and to stick with infinite questions. If you look for proofs of its incorrectness, and the plan will reveal, then the trust between you will fairly reel. Be more rational, do not give in to emotions and pay attention to signs of love and warmth in your relations. It is important to know the darling better: study its character and habits of behavior. Do it throughout all time while you together – exchange views, you go to various actions, be interested as there passed it day and so on. It not only will bring together you, but also will not allow to be played to your rough imagination from scratch. So you will quicker cope with feeling of jealousy.