The typical picture for most of families - the scattered toys and categorical refusal of the child to bring together them after the game. The quarrel becomes typical result of such behavior - parents shout and swear, children take offense. To avoid the similar conflicts, it is necessary to accustom the child to obedience initially.
Instruction
1. The main mistake of parents - shout on the child. Similar behavior it is almost impossible to achieve the necessary effect. Even if the child will obey once, then it is quite probable that further he will decide to go on the real strike. Emotions even if they overflow you, should be constrained. Objectively assess current situation.
2. With the child be most benevolent, ask it to collect by a quiet voice toys, pencils or other children's stock. At this moment try to tell the kid that the scattered things - it is ugly, cleaning brings upon mom a lot of trouble, mom was tired. In a word, just ask for the child of the help, but do not force to do by shout what is necessary for you.
3. An important point which will help to operate the child - all children want to mature quicker. Surely mention it during a request. For example, tell ""you are already big girl, help, please, to mom" "or" "only small children, and you at me already absolutely big scatter toys"". In the opinion of the child the pride and delight instantly will appear.
4. Surely you praise the child for good acts and reaction to your requests. The kid has to have an incentive to receive from you a praise and an official message of thanks. You pay compliments more often, point out talents of the child.
5. Use hobby of the child for manipulation with his behavior. For example, if the kid is not indifferent to sport, ""draw"" to it an image of the ideal athlete. Surely specify that all outstanding persons love an order, watch the daily routine, brush teeth and so forth. The child has to have a certain image to which he will seek to imitate.
6. Be patient. Very often parents forget that once they had quarrels to adults because of disobedience too. Try to remember the childhood and the character. What could interest you? For the sake of what you were ready to satisfy any requests of the parents? It is quite probable that your child wants the same what you dreamed in the childhood of.
7. It is possible to use small cunning. For example, if the child does not clean up pencils, toys, ware, scatters things - turn cleaning into a game. Represent planes pencils, sending them to a pencil cup, you say that some fairy tale character will come and will take away to itself a favourite t-shirt which constantly is not in the place. Gradually the child so will be fond of a game that he itself will get used to purity and an order.