Unfortunately, sometimes marriages break up. And the woman with the child wants to build the life further. To acquaint the child with the new friend - not a simple task. The first impression means much. How does the meeting that they got on have to take place?
It is not simple to child to let in someone the world where him so well together with mom. Often the rivalry caused by jealousy begins. The man is perceived as the stranger who takes away mother's attention and wants to destroy their adjusted life. There are several conditions which observance will help to make the first meeting of the least painful for all. You should not acquaint the child with each pleasant man. If you are confident in the candidate for your hand and heart, then can begin preparation for acquaintance.
1. Timeliness
Not to be necessary to acquaint the child before moving of the man to you. It is necessary to make it in advance. You would not like that to you some foreign person suddenly came to live? Acquaintance has to happen beforehand. Suitcases on a threshold and the phrase ""Is Andrey, he will live with us"" - will not approach.
2. Psychological preparation
Tell the child in advance that you want to acquaint him with the new friend. It is not necessary to arrange surprises. Adjust the child on a pleasant and interesting meeting. Do not put restrictions, do not lay down conditions. Let the child behave naturally. These are not shows of the husband or child. It just acquaintance of two people.
3. Meeting place
It is better if acquaintance happens on the neutral territory. This place has to be interesting to the child and mean joint activity. For example, outdoor games on air, an interactive excursion in the museum, a creative or culinary master class for all family - the main thing that this occupation was pleasant to all.
4. Mom's spirit
Most likely, you will worry whether they will be pleasant each other, whether the kid (or any more not the kid) will accept your elect, whether your man will be disappointed? Remember that the child reads out your emotions. You are disturbing - and he will begin to worry, and will connect this tension with the new acquaintance. Be quiet and self-assured. And the place for acquaintance surely owes you it is pleasant that you felt comfortable. One more quite good option - a meeting in the big cheerful company where there will be both familiar, and new people. They can only get acquainted and be crossed few times for an action there. This communication has to be pleasant and unostentatious. In this situation the next meeting will take place less tensely.
5. Gift
Actually, it is almost not important. There will be it or not - solve. Do you want the child to like the man, but not a toy? Communication is much more important.
6. Feelings of the child
Remember that the child is faced by a difficult task. To accept the person who as can seem to him, wants to take away from him mom. Allow it to be upset, take offense and even to be angry. He has the right for these feelings. Sometimes it is even worth paying attention to his opinion - he can see and feel what was not noticed by you. After the meeting surely discuss the new acquaintance, allow the child to express the feelings, do not tear off, do not reproach him if he speaks not that you would like to hear. Give it time to get used to changes. The main thing that the kid felt that you love it as well as earlier.