Sometimes parents think that the child does not understand their words at all, it is impossible to agree with the child. Therefore parents break on shout, punish the kid, use physical punishments. The last – the receipt of parents in pedagogical powerlessness and demonstration of the fact that "strong it is always right".
Instruction
1. You recognize that once were children. What interesting world was around how much there was a wish to learn and try! Solve for yourself whether you want to help the child to mature in this world or to you just laziness and there are no time to be engaged in children's nonsenses, to answer silly questions?
2. Be guided by the future. What you would like to see the child? The spineless person not capable to object, defend the opinion or the free-thinking, responsible, self-assured personality? Choosing line of conduct in a conflict situation, think what quality you want to create in the child. Be guided not by use of punishments, and by the idea of correction of behavior in the future.
3. Get up on the child's position. Try to understand his momentary desires. You teach the child to work, make a compromise, to agree, make decisions.
4. Remain quiet and cool, do not follow the tastes emotions. Psychologists claim that they in families where adults do not behave, are not present to a slad neither with children, nor with animals.
5. In advance stipulate mutual behavior in conflict situations. To avoid scandals in shop, discuss, for what purpose you go there that you will get. Over stipulated never get nothing. So at the child the habit to keep the word will be formed.
6. Give to the kid time for performance of actions necessary to you. Before leaving a sandbox, warn the child that he had 15, 10 and 5 minutes (or 3-2-1) on completion of a game.
7. Take in a habit to discuss any conflict situations after their incident. When also you, and the child are quiet, analyze, who that did not correctly. It is possible to apologize before each other. Decide how you will arrive further what punishments will be incurred by the child in case of violation of the arrangement.
8. Correctly formulate conditions that the logicality of punishment was obvious to the child. It is impossible to manipulate parental love, to subordinate it to conventions. Designs with visible logic, for example will be more effective: "if you do not eat soup, you will not eat some dessert/candy"". In such statements it is visible that the child who is not fulfilling the requirements logically punishes himself.