When the child becomes a teenager, it is very important not to miss the moment and not to move away from the child. How to approach the teenager?
Instruction
1. Try to support easy communication constantly. It is unlikely it will turn out to persuade the child to go with you to cafe, or to chat behind a family dinner therefore it is possible to be engaged in something together, the girl it is possible to ask to help with cooking, the boy can be engaged with the father in man's work on the house. At such moments it is easier to start easy conversations, it will look easily and naturally, the teenager will not feel pressure, from parents as at this age, children do not like to tell about the private life and in every possible way avoid interrogations of parents.
2. Sincerely be interested in hobbies of the child. If it is sport, surely you come to be ill to competitions, music, the group, you come to concerts, listen to execution of the house. Do not criticize and do not reject the interests of the teenager whatever strange and silly they to you seemed. At teenage age, children become adults and begin to look for themselves, to try all new. If you do not share the interests of the teenager, he will not want to share with you experiences, emotions as will be sure that you will not understand it.
3. Many parents are sure that the informal conversation in a silent situation, eye to eye can bring together them with the teenager, more than ever. But modern children do not share this opinion. Therefore it is necessary to move with them together and to change outdated stereotypes. Write the child of the SMS message with smilies, master e-mail, register at least on one social network where your child most often communicates with friends.
4. You treat seriously all subjects upon which your teenager in a conversation touches. Do not deride and do not criticize, that it seems to your child doomsday, and you estimate as the next nonsense. Show participation, promote, support the teenager with all his experiences what innocent and insignificant they to you did not seem. You remember, the child at teenage age takes any criticism very painfully.
5. With respect and open interest you treat the teenager's friends, now friends in his life take very important place therefore do not criticize and do not deride none of a circle of acquaintances of your child. It can anger and push away him outright.