Psychologists characterize a children's suicide as the last call for help of the child sent to parents. Such terrible end is chosen by children who do not see for themselves other exit. And let they look at a situation too hypertrophied, it does not cancel a terrible ending. Therefore neobkhodmo to worry about prevention to lower sad statistics.
Annually every 12th teenager aged from 12 up to 20 years tries to commit suicide. At the same time children's suicide, according to experts, is what can be avoided. The decision to die children, unlike adults, do not accept right now. The idea they bear some time, and it is even not simply one day. The decision on a suicide can ripen weeks and even years. All this time the minor gives to adults the chance to keep him from this step: signals that to it it is bad, shows that lost interest in life. Also it is necessary to watch very carefully the child and to listen to him to understand that he tries to inform you.
What indicates the decision on a suicide
The child who made the decision on suicide indirectly gives it a number of characteristic signs. So, for example, in his speech phrases, type more often begin to appear: "I will not disturb anybody any more", "You will be able to have a rest from me soon", etc. Also parents have to prick up the ears from too thoughtless statements about death, for example, "Death - only aspect of life", etc. Modern teenagers very often leave such messages on social networks.
At the nonverbal level tell the teenager's acts about the scary decision. So, if he began gratuitous distribution of the things, including and very expensive and memorable to his heart, ceased to pay attention to the appearance, lost interest to the earlier favourite hobby, was discharged of family and friends, shows indifference to the world around and often retires, it can say that the teenager is ready to leave life.
What should I do?
Naturally, those parents who observe such signs have questions. And the main of them - what to do. Psychologists assure that it is possible to save the child still. The main thing to begin it is correct to work. So, the child can tell parents about the problems only if he trusts them. Therefore, first of all, it is necessary to build up trusting relationship with the child. Refuse for a while criticism. You have to support only him during this difficult period of life. Listen carefully to the child, in it and the clue is - you will be able to understand a problem which prevents children to live. You should not underestimate and belittle offenses and complaints of the child. For him they are very much serious. It is necessary to come with him into the maximum contact that your child shared everything, it was uttered, and felt better it at heart. Besides, you as the adult can help him to make the decision on an exit from current situation without such cardinal steps as a suicide. Psychologists recommend not to hide the head in sand, hoping that all by itself will pass. Directly it is possible to ask the child whether he thinks of committing suicide. Such question you will definitely not do harm. But get a chance to speak all thoughts disturbing the teenager. Parents have to support the child. Even if it seems to them that he is wrong. It is at the moment unimportant. Important the fact that it needs the relatives and without their support does not represent how to live further. Try to emphasize attention on positive aspects of life. You take the child in a holiday there where he dreamed long ago, discuss with it his dreams, perhaps, he dreams to be engaged in aviadesigning or ballroom dances, and you wrote down it on karate and embroidery. Surely address the professional psychologist. But give it not so as if the child went crazy. Previously speak with him that would like to descend to the psychologist to understand how to help it. Do not forget that the teenager is the created personality with the interests and desires. At the same time he possesses too exaggerated relation to different events and can seriously be offended if it is wrong to it to offer consultation of the expert. To save the child from a suicide the patience and all your love will be necessary for you. Surely pay all the attention to the child, you do not stabilize a situation yet and you will not see that life gets better. Otherwise the result can be a disaster.