The problem of "fathers and children" is not solved still. We seldom think of why between parents and children there is a conflict, and, above all how to extinguish a contention flame. Some trifle which over the years can become the reason of complete misunderstanding of dear people prevents to take place to good relations.
It is required to you
- patience
- sharpness
- hardness in
Instruction
1. Every time when there is a conflict with the child, think, than the behavior of the child is motivated. Even if you do not notice the reason, it does not mean that it is absent. Very often the child is not satisfied in psychological requirements, he lacks your attention, love and caress.
2. What to make to avoid the conflict? Psychologists advise more attentively to treat the child. For example, you are asked to buy the next toy. Having told simply "no", you thereby will let the child know that you are indifferent to his desires. Try to switch attention to other subject, to distract from a thought of purchase. Or present the following situation: the child draws on wall-paper. Instead of abusing, give him paper and teach to draw some animal.
3. A widespread conflict situation is the child's hysterics. It is desirable to make everything not to allow so heavy splash in negative emotions. For this purpose the thicket needs to talk to the kid about his desires, mood, fears, behavior and duties.
4. Correctly criticize the child. Estimate only behavior: "You badly behaved". At a blamestorming session try to soften criticism: "You received the two today. It of course is bad, but I know that tomorrow you will try and will receive a good mark".