Good mom that which is happy together with children. At the same time a concept of components of happiness at everyone the. You have to, first of all, for itself define "a comfort zone". And, perhaps, the most difficult at the same time – to reach good compromise between the interests of the child and your "private life".
Instruction
1. First, stop to compare yourself and the child to other mothers and their children. Also do not try to adjust yourself and the family to the general stereotypes of "horoshesta". You and your child have full authority to be yourself and to live as it is pleasant to you.
2. You will hardly feel happy if you try "to embrace the immensity": to keep ideal order in the house, to prepare, to be engaged in education and education of the child, to work, and at the same time there has to be time for itself and the husband. With such installations it is very easy to drive itself into a stressful state that nothing good will bring to neither you, nor the child.
3. Place priorities for yourself and the kid. Of course, what is vital for the child is on the first place: the leaving providing health; maintenance of a necessary order and purity in the house (but without fanaticism). On the second place – a healthy and positive condition of mom. On the third – support of the healthy family atmosphere and cosiness. And then all other affairs.
4. Sort out for yourself that is included by these positions from your point of view and follow it, despite opinion of people around. Accept for yourself that your vision of care of the child and about the house can differ from the point of view of mom, the girlfriend, the mother-in-law and. etc. The main evaluation criterion is how you feel, the child and the father of family.
5. Of course, there is some rules which need to be followed at treatment of the child, especially, when he grew up a little, and your lives do not go according to one plan any more. Always you find time to communicate and play with the kid. Ask as at it there passed day, tell about the events.
6. While the child needs it, put him to bed. Kiss, embrace, tell that you love it. Esteem or tell the fairy tale. Let to the kid know your love, attention and care. If they say only in feeding, toothbrushing and movement between the house, a garden or school, circles, and of the rest you will have neither forces, nor time, then hardly your child will feel happy.
7. Always try to understand the child, to look on a situation at him with eyes. It will help you to avoid many misunderstanding and quarrels and will provide trust of the kid which is just necessary for good parenthood. Talk to the child at his level i.e. if it is necessary - sit down. Especially important it at ""showdown"".
8. Interest the child in performance of necessary actions (housework, cleaning of toys, study, lessons, etc.). It is possible to introduce the system of points and encouragement. So far the consciousness not at the appropriate level - it will save your time and nerves. But be not fond not to receive a situation when for any action the child demands an award.
9. You praise the child more often, try to shout at him less. Respect in him the personality from the smallest age. Criterion of really good mom - cordial, trusting relationship in family and reciprocal desire of the child to please parents and to show the love.