Situations when the teenager does not live at home and periodically runs away from parents, psychologists consider protective reaction of the child to a home atmosphere, adverse for it. To solve this problem, it is necessary to understand the reasons of escape and to eliminate them.
Instruction
1. In the course of identification of the reasons do not roll up hysterics, do not threaten and do not use force in relation to the child. Many parents mistakenly believe that if to hide things of the child and everywhere to accompany him, he will cease to run away from the house. Such pressure will only strengthen its aspiration to independent life.
2. Analyze that changed recently in the family relations. It becomes frequent the reason of escapes of teenagers a divorce of parents or appearance of the new family member. When cease to pay to the child due attention, he seeks it elsewhere.
3. Create it comfortable conditions at home. Come into the lost contact in the form of partnership and confidential communication. Ask council, let it feel like the equal and full member of family who takes a certain responsibility for it.
4. The need for attention or requirements of performance of any desires, the new computer, phone, etc. can be the cause of escapes of the child. The purpose of such demonstrative escapes is to be found and returned, i.e. thus to draw attention to the requirements. You treat seriously all requests of the child, do not ignore his attempt to share with you the feelings. If you cannot satisfy its request, find proper words for explanations, but not in which case do not "wave away" from them. Teenagers perceive all words of adults literally.
5. In some cases the usual boredom, a daily routine can cause desire not to live with parents in the child. Owing to features of the teenage period the child feels the need to try the hand, to become on an equal basis with the adult. Organize joint leisure, but not shopping and not a trip to giving. Find entertainments on the verge of an extreme: jump with a parachute, be alloyed down the river and be engaged other types of tourism where it is required to show the strong-willed qualities and physical force. There is a child, overcoming difficulties, will be able to check himself and to understand danger of uncontrolled experiments with the life.
6. Escape as imitation the hero of the movie or novel can be implemented in case the child often hears from parents that at his age someone was involved in fighting, was left without parents and fed family, etc. I.e. if to compare the teenager to more independent people of his age, it can cause in it desire to prove that it is not worse. Avoid such statements, they do not do well to educational process, it is rather on the contrary.
7. Hyper guardianship or, on the contrary, excessive pressure also promote escape of the child from parents. Give it a certain degree of freedom: he has the right for the personal space and things which belong only to it. It is impossible to show to the child at this hard age of high and impracticable requirements, for example, to be always ahead of all in study, in sport and other classes. And the more so - it is impossible to punish him for failure to follow any given requirements severely.
8. Sometimes neurologic diseases, for example, epilepsy can become the reason that the teenager does not live at home. If you try to create to the child comfortable conditions, and he continues to run away from the house, address the neuropathologist. And if you cannot establish the reason of escapes, address for consultation the psychologist.