The child is a little person, future member of society. Therefore, bringing up it, it is necessary to be not only the strict mentor, but also the skilled friend. How to learn to be on friendly terms with the child?
Instruction
1. To become friends with the child, it is necessary to reckon with his interests, not to underestimate his age. If all of you time care for it as if about the kid, he can become the crybaby or the whiner not capable to take care of itself(himself). On the contrary, you teach the child to be independent: if him is able, then let put on itself if it had problems in collective, prompt, kind of you arrived on its place if he is capricious, specify to it that it any more not the kid also can independently banish from himself whims.
2. That the child like to you friendly feelings, he has to consider himself equal to you, feel the importance in family. If you decide how to spend weekend, let him take part in it. If you choose a dress for a holiday, he can quite advise you what dress suits you more. At the child it is possible even to cry if to you it is bad, he very much loves you and will be able to regret how nobody else.
3. You will become a friend to the child if you sometimes take part in his entertainments. Children adore when parents join their games. If you walk in the park why not to run about competing in speed, jog will do good not only to the child, but also you. If you do not know how to brighten up boring autumn evening, turn off the light and arrange incendiary dances. Who will dance more originally, that also will receive candy. It is possible even suits for such competition to think up. You laugh and have fun with the child, and he will consider you as the best friend.
4. Do not go to far in manuals, you do not shout at the child if he was guilty. Psychologists assure young parents that shout can frighten the child, but will not have that effect which you try to obtain. It will be much better to talk to the child alone in quiet tone. Explain to him why something cannot be done, tell how it is necessary to behave correctly, give examples (let and invented) acts of bad and good children. Do not specify to the child what has to be him, let itself will choose as it is better to arrive: well or badly.
5. You love the child and always express him the tenderness and attachment. Let him know that the help will always find from you, support and council. Only the sincerity and goodwill will arrange the child, and he will open for you the soul as will consider you as the senior and skilled friend, and not just the strict parent.