Parents of teenagers often face that do not understand the child, cannot find with him a common ground, turning any conversation into the conflict. But the yesterday's sweet baby became the gloomy teenager not in one day. Just for parents time stopped and they did not manage to get into other role. A role of the friend for the child.
And whether it is necessary to be the friend in general? It is necessary, but it does not mean to practice familiar communication, to allow uncontrolled behavior of the teenager. It is rather a mentoring of more senior person. But here it is necessary to seek not to overstep the bound when the teenager not just takes you for the, he puts you below. So with what to begin? Since childhood.
Task of parents to teach the child to interaction with the world. But also most it is infinite to study. The role of the know-it-all will attract at first the child, but then will bore him and he will want to share with you the opening. And what he will hear in reply: "I better you know", "Is small still", "Do not philosophize!". And everything, the first door in the relations was closed.
How do you encourage hobbies of the child? You say that computer games nonsense (partly you are right), and it is necessary to study, but not all day to ride a board. But that for you nonsense and the passable stage, for the child the whole Universe. And it would be quite good to you to be integrated into it. The bans give nothing. It is possible to send softly to other course, to find adjacent interests and advantage of hobbies of the teenager.
Do not do school by a stumbling block. The childhood does not come to an end in the first class. Look for school by the child's opportunities, but not on the parental ambitions. Be aware of school life of the child, but only to help with a case of the arisen problems. Pay attention not to estimates, and to the level of knowledge of the child.
The teenager needs all the same your society even if he prefers you the company of the friends. Involve it in family life. It is possible to take the boy to change blocks by car: "I need your help". With the girl to choose purchases for the house, to update cosmetics or to descend together on manicure. Also there will be no excuses that there is not enough time for children. Everything can be done together.