To become the friend for the child, you see off with him as more time. Communicate more often, support the child in all his undertakings. Never lie and always keep the promise.
Instruction
1. To become the friend for the child, you spend with him much time. Together you watch movies, you walk and on a visit, visit interesting places and just communicate. Coming home from work, refuse watching TV. Devote this time to interesting games with the child better. Household chores can be done together too. Joint pastime will allow you with the child better to know each other, to reveal unknown qualities of the child and to look at it from the new parties. And regular communication and ability of parents to listen and hear the offspring will help to gain trust.
2. To make friends with own child, you treat him as to the friend, but not as to the subordinate. If you need something, do not order to the child, and tenderly ask it. Often children cannot trust the parents only because mom and dad demand too much and punish or abuse for mistakes. And such approach absolutely incorrect. If the child made something not so or was guilty of something, take him by hand, look in eyes and tenderly ask that he happened. Then the child to you will trust and to consider you as the friend. And never point that children have to obey implicitly the parents and submit to them. It absolutely not friendly.
3. You remember mutual aid and mutual support. Surely help the child if he about it asks, offer the help. Besides, you ask the child about the help more often, it will allow it to feel necessary and important for you. If something is impossible to the child, surely support and encourage him. Tell about that, as you faced failures and difficulties, give a real example from the life. And always help the child to overcome fears.
4. Be honest and always keep the promises. Do not lie to the child, you always tell him the truth, hide nothing. Secret always becomes obvious, and the opened lie will undermine confidence of the offspring to you. If you promised something to the child, execute it. If you do not keep the promise, the child it will not be simple to trust you. And then to become the good friend for him at you will definitely not leave.
5. Learn to control the emotions and you are not angry with the child. Yours the anger and rage can forever kill desire of the child to communicate with you and to trust you. Even if the offspring was guilty, calm down and talk about everything without shouts, charges and reproaches. Punishments are necessary, but they should not be humiliating. And at times it is possible to do also without them.