Informal movements at teenagers, quite widespread phenomenon. Advice to parents as it is correct to behave with the teenager the nonconformist.
Instruction
1. Collect enough information. Study subculture to which your teenager stuck, you will see a real picture of the events, perhaps, will get rid of experiences. And the most important you will become closer to the child, will be able to keep up the conversation about his hobby, to participate more in the teenager's life.
2. It is possible to discuss with the teenager parental fears delicately. You should not attack on the child at once and to reproach for silly occupation. Give it the chance to dispel your fears. To tell what children of the same direction are engaged in. Correctly react, otherwise you will push away from yourself the child.
3. You share personal experience with the teenager tell, than in youth you were fond and your friends, light positive and bad points as you arrived in any given cases, remember how you were perceived by your parents.
4. It is possible to choose and buy together with the child things with attributes of his movement. So you will be able to approach even better the teenager, will become better to understand and perceive hobby of the child and will be able to control the events a little.
5. Subcultures are so popular among youth because they help them to be expressed and to stand out from the general crowd. Proceeding from opinion of psychologists, it is absolutely normal and needs of nature of the child, need for self-affirmation and development. Therefore you should not panic and worry if your teenager seriously was fond of a certain subculture. Perceive it as do not forbid the normal phenomenon, otherwise the teenager will be engaged in it secretly, counter to parents.
6. It is incorrectly simple to ignore hobbies of the child. The teenager surely has to see that kind of you liked his hobbies you perceive them, at the same time respect opinion and the choice of the child.
7. It is impossible to criticize, badly to speak of the teenager's idols. For example, if you do not like heavy music to which the teenager listens, you should not rush into the room and to demand to switch off these cries. Take an interest better what this group that for the direction in music, and then ask to make a sound more silent.
8. You should not attribute to informal movements all possible sins. Does not mean at all that all nonconformists surely smoke, take alcohol and drugs. For the teenager it is offensive and inappropriate remarks, parents do not understand him.