When the woman having children marries again, in family the new person appears. He should improve the relations with children and to become full replacement of the father. Not always the stepfather easily takes root in family. To preserve peace, it is necessary to make some efforts.
Instruction
1. With arrival of the stepfather the way of life of family changes, new rules and requirements appear. All this can injure the child therefore in the first days of new family life do not force development of the relations. You hold a certain distance with still foreign child. Give him and yourself time to look narrowly to each other and to get used to new situation.
2. Do not try to win "straight off" arrangement of foreign child by means of gifts or insincere affection its progress. Children very sensitively feel falseness and cease to trust such people. On trust the normal relations in family are under construction.
3. In order that the child began you to trust completely, spend with him more free time, helping it with the solution of problems, with study or playing together with it games. But at the same time be not surprised if it shows jealousy from time to time. It is inevitable, children compare the stepfather to the father. Not always comparison appears in favor of the new dad, be ready to explosions of emotions and a protest from the child. You understand it and patience, be friendly and polite.
4. Be careful in the education moments not to look in the opinion of the child the despot who dictates the rules and orders. But also do not evade from educational process. If you punish, then only for good reason.
5. The child will be inevitably jealous of you of mom. It is possible to cope with these only in case he sees and will understand that the stepfather sincerely loves mother and her children. Do not try to resist to it, the child has to see in you not the competitor, but the adherent.
6. If the child periodically meets the father, it is possible that he will negatively speak of mom and her new husband. Be cleverer and do not afford negative statements about the real father. You have an undoubted advantage: an opportunity is near the child and to take daily care of it. Use it and patiently wait when the child ceases to perceive similar statements from the father and to react to them.
7. If in your family there are new children, try not to give preference to the own child. It is natural that the been born baby will be the focus of attention, try that also the senior child felt joy of appearance of the new family member. For this purpose involve it in the general cares on care for the kid, let to the senior know the responsibility and a special role in education of the younger brother or sister.