When spouses get divorced, for children it is always shock. How to explain to the child that he it is necessary to live only with mom or dad? After the divorce the kid has a set of questions which he cannot independently answer.
Instruction
1. Most often when parting parents the child remains with mom. The first reaction of the woman after the divorce is clear. She under no circumstances does not want to see former even if it comes with the purpose to visit the children, to spend with them the day off. Seldom what mom is ready to forget offense for the sake of the benefit of the child and to continue to communicate with the ex-husband. To the kid such reaction of the native person is unclear. He continues to love dad and mom and is not ready to refuse one of parents.
2. Mom in that case should not refuse to dear people communication and interfere with their meetings. Besides, it is necessary to refrain from negative statements. It is important to remember that the former spouse first of all the child's father, and he has to take direct part in his education. Such relation will a little soften divorce consequences.
3. It is extremely important to lonely mothers not to leave from conversations about dad, it will allow the child to feel presence of both parents in the life.
4. Children who became involuntary witnesses of a divorce often consider themselves guilty that the family broke up. That it did not happen, it is important to explain to the kid that parents left with each other, but not him.
5. To save the child from the stress connected with a divorce sometimes it is enough to tell that dad will live in other place. If the voice of mom naturally sounds, the kid, most likely, will apprehend information adequately.
6. Sometimes there are situations when communication of the father with the child after the divorce stops. In this case mom can say a lie to the son or the daughter about where there is dad. But consequences of her such behavior are unpredictable. With approach of teenage age the child will want to meet the parent, to come to visit it or to write the letter. In this situation the truth can reveal, and mom for a long time will lose trust of the grown-up child.
7. Usually children from incomplete families do not receive full communication with parents of an opposite sex. In that case the girl can grow up with a bouquet of problems and complexes. She can have problems at communication with boys. It is even more difficult to boys to be socialized without participation of the father in their education. In the future they can have problems in communication with the weaker sex.
8. From stains any family is not insured. For the child it can become a serious trauma which can pour out in a deep depression subsequently. That it did not occur, parents need to create favorable emotional climate in family, to take care of the child. It is impossible to hide the truth from the kid. It is the best of all to find time and to talk frankly to it about a problem.
9. Over time the child adapts to new conditions. The main thing that during the difficult period of life with it there were people who love it, understand and will always help to get out of a difficult life situation.