Joint visits with the child of shop cause in many parents the real horror, and all because most of kids simply are not able to behave normally in such places. It is very heavy to cope with temptation to take from shelves all that so there is a wish, and parents, naturally, are not able to afford to buy the child all desirable. There is a conflict which in most cases is followed by a children's hysterics. Because of it parents try to visit shops alone that all was quiet and it was not necessary to redden before other visitors. However it is impossible to close eyes to this problem, it should be solved.
Instruction
1. For a start it is necessary to understand why the child so behaves. The reasons there can be a weight. For example, often parents very long choose any given product, and at this time their child costs will begin to ask something from a show-window on which there is a lot of desirable, naturally, it will not will.
2. A long talk of parents in shop with accidentally met acquaintance also releases a lot of time at the child during whom he is lost in contemplation of beautiful show-windows.
3. If the kid sees at any child in hands interesting goods, he immediately and itself wants to himself same and begins to demand it.
4. If it is necessary to buy a gift to any friend for a holiday, then the child has desire to receive something too.
5. Naturally it is not all situations in which the child can have a hysterics as he will begin to demand actively any given goods from parents, however data are considered as the most widespread.
6. Many mothers and fathers during such periods try to agree with the child that all passed peacefully. They promise the kid that they will surely buy him a toy, but only then when he, for example, well behaves on a visit, a garden, etc. Naturally the child immediately begins to obey, promised him a quite good prize for its obedience, but here only parents about promised very quickly forget. The child begins to get used that mom and dad do not keep the promises any more never will believe that for good behavior can present him something, so will behave as to it will like. Therefore it is necessary to study or not to promise anything at all, or to carry out what it was told about.
7. Also it is impossible to call the child in a quarrel the egoist, whimsical, to compare to someone, etc. It very much offends the kid, and such offense can lodge in heart for a long time.
8. Children are good manipulators. Tears and hysterics are just an occasion to achieve the desirable and if it it managed once, then he will use this method again and again. Therefore for parents it is so important to be able to hold the ground.
9. Before a visit of shop it is necessary to lead a serious discussion with the child, to tell how it is correct to behave why it is impossible to play about, etc. If suddenly the child starts over again demanding something in shop, then it is necessary just to bring him out of this shop and to go without wasting words home. There is no sense to the kid in a hysterical state to try to explain something, he all the same will not apprehend a word as it is necessary.
10. When the child understands that as soon as he begins to behave badly, visit of shop comes to an end, it will begin to restrain, and hysterics will come to naught.