The ten-year-old child is not the teenager yet, but already and not the kid. He has the opinion and tries to resist to parents, arguing the point of view. It is important to find contact and to build up trusting relationship with the young personality.
Instruction
1. Become the child the friend. Communicate with him, sincerely be interested in his life. Listen to children's opinion, do not wave away from the child, motivating it with employment or fatigue.
2. Talk on difficult and inconvenient subjects. Lead discussions about harm of drugs and also about smoking and alcoholism. Be extremely opened and is sincere, answer all questions which arose at the child. Such conversations are hard, but they are necessary. Children have to know that in difficult situations they can always ask for the help parents.
3. You spend more time together. You go to the cinema, on exhibitions, do sports. Even quiet house evening behind board games very much brings together family. Travel and carry out summer holiday actively that the child had many impressions and emotions of a trip.
4. Involve the child in house work. It already has to help with ten-year age to parents rather actively. Assign performance of a certain homework to the child. Do not refuse the children's help though it first will be also awkward. Be engaged in affairs together more often, thus you pass on the experience.
5. Be accurate, communicating with the child. You do not tell offensive words and do not belittle the dignity of the young personality. Do not compare the child to other more successful children, it very much will wound children's mentality, and such offenses long are not forgotten. A phrase "What you silly, cannot solve an elementary problem" replace another: "I know that you are a capable boy. Once again you will attentively read to Eesli a condition, by all means you will solve a problem". You love the child irrespective of his achievements. Do not hesitate to apologize if you offended him or unfairly abused. Children's heart is very sympathetic, and the child will forgive you at once.
6. Support the children in their hobbies and aspirations. If the child is interested in something concrete, for example, in sport or music, provide him conditions for classes. You praise the child for progress and encourage at failures. Understanding and approval of parents is very important for children.